My Nuclear Family: The Perspectives Of A Family

In a family, there is one person who has significant meanings for you and supports you as you grow up. Sometimes the person is not your parents and your sister and brother. From the book, we have the awareness of the different lives between James and his mother Ruth and we can see the feeling and perspectives of them. I was born in a large family in China, which meant I was born to have many family members. They were my parents and my grandparents and several relatives. Living with many relatives is the normal living style in China and I was so pleased to have those kinds of family members during my childhood. There were so much fun with them, but I cannot experience now. I was raised by my grandparents and we had lived in one place for more …show more content…
I will introduce my grandmother as my nuclear family member because I have lived with her for more than 16 years and I have the most childhood memories with her, no matter what they are sweet, emotional, or negative. Even though I lived with my grandfather as well, I rarely got along with him alone and I rarely talk to him only if I wanted something, but grandmother disagreed. For me, grandfather is the person who always satisfy my demands and grandmother is the person who often reject my opinions, but she is more important than grandfather in my life. I and my two cousins were raised by my grandmother at the same time. Comparing with my cousins, I was the most quiet and behaved one. As a result, my grandmother didn’t treat me strictly as same as treating them. When I was in kindergarten, I liked to follow her wherever she went and I liked to play with her and ask her to tell the stories. As I grew up, my grandmother usually didn’t limit me that much as long as I didn’t go outside alone. She liked to carry us out in the weekend and played in the park. I asked her once why did she rarely control me and wasn’t serious for me. She said you are a girl and you are the oldest, and she …show more content…
Her father was strict and he wanted everyone in his family to listen to him and he liked everyone to get their lives that he was satisfied. Her mother treated them as same as her father, but her mother wasn’t that kind of strict and she showed more care and warmth. Her mother wanted every children to have best life, so she liked to manage their lives. My grandmother grew up under her parents’ control. She listened to them and did everything they liked. For example, her current life was chosen by her parents and she felt regretful and disappointed in her entire life. She listened to her parents to marry my grandfather when she was high school student and was requested to quit from school forever. In her mind, she didn’t want to give up everything she loved at that time, but if she revolted her parents, she would lose everything she had and she could not live because she didn’t know how to deal with things of life. Also, women in her time period didn’t receive high education. Therefore, she accepted their mandate and married my grandfather. Since that time, she needed to learn how to be a housewife and she lived with complaints. She rarely went her home and talk to her parents. She didn’t like my grandfather and even she had resentment for him. Even so they still lived together and they had 5 children. They had many conflicts because they didn’t really like the living styles