Personal Narrative: My First Interview

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My first interview was performed on my grandmother. I chose her because I knew she could give me insight that a modern couple could not, since she and her husband met approximately 70 years ago. I also knew that she would be very open to discussing her relationship with me, so I knew it would not be awkward. Her husband unfortunately had passed away about twenty years ago, so he could not be there to give his side. In the interview, we discussed where and how they met, how old they are, if religion affected the relationship, the little things that kept the marriage happy and good, as well as her attraction to him. My second couple chosen was my close friend. I chose her for similar reasons that I chose my grandmother, such as knowing that it …show more content…
In both cases, their attraction was instant and their satisfaction in the relationship has increased over time. A large difference between the two couples is that in my grandmother’s case, she believed that if her relationship had been set in modern times, they would have been just as happy, whereas in the case of my second interview, she believed the opposite. The gain of technology would have made no negative impact on their love, whereas in appendix B’s case, the lack of technology could have caused a fatal breakup. Another large difference is their cohabitation. Appendix A’s couple did not cohabitate before marriage, so everything they ended up learning about living with another person, they learned together, whereas in appendix B’s case, they are already “testing the waters” (Lewandowski, 2011, p. 81) for marriage. They have differences in the places they are at in the relationship. Appendix A was married for almost 50 years, while appendix B has only been dating a year and a half. The couple in appendix B has not experienced near as many life changes, struggles, or as much time together as couple B has. As expected, couple B has many more insecurities about the relationship than that of A, but only because of the length of the …show more content…
It was interesting to ask them almost exactly the same questions and compare just how different they responded. This comparison proved that the values and morals of relationships are shifting and changing all the time, and not always negatively. Couple A had a lifelong experience of finding love, creating a relationship, entering a union, creating a family, and enjoying their relationship until the very end. Couple B is only in the beginning of those steps. Comparing the two and viewing their responses shows just how different people will respond at different stages of their relationship. I am sure if I had interviewed my grandmother when she and her late husband had just met, their responses might have more closely resembled those of couple B. This information puts relationships into different lights. The success in couple A and the potential success in couple B is a good way to view things. Although I myself have only been dating my boyfriend for just less than two years, there is always the potential that we could turn out like my grandmother did. While sometimes it is not always fair to compare one relationship to another, sometimes it can be helpful to give oneself a larger

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