The person that I have chosen to work on my interpersonal communication skills with is my roommate Moises. I’ve known Moises for about 4 years now. We grew up in the same small town in Arvin Ca, played basketball together and even make music together in this little group we have. I moved here to Chico with him from Bakersfield to attend college. His father recommended us to go here.
I chose Moises because I’m always around him. Even if I don’t want him, he’s around. We talk a lot; in fact, we talk about almost anything. In the end we are just really good friends so we communicate very well. Even though we communicate well, there are still some breaks in there somewhere, where sometimes we get some misunderstandings. There are times we have …show more content…
What usually happens in our relationship is that once I get home from school or come out of my room and I see the house dirty or a pile of dishes it immediately ticks me off. I go to confront him like, “dude it is your turn to wash the dishes today because I washed them last time.” Then he usually comes back with the “But you are the one who messed them up” even though I wash all the dishes together even if I messed them up or not. Negotiating in that situation would make it ten times better to get my point across in which I’m saying we should share the responsibility. My only goal is to be able to communicate with my roommate at the best of my abilities. We need to learn how to communicate and negotiate everything that is negotiable. Even if there is something that I really would not negotiate with him, for the sake of this paper I will experiment with new communicating skills. So every day after school or on the weekends if I see an opportunity at something that we might fight over I’m going to take it and practice negotiating with him at the best of my …show more content…
Our problems are usually a power struggle being two males in a house. My next strategy will be proposing or justifying an action to resolve the conflict, I will ask my roommate why It should be mine or his turn to do whatever it is that we usually argue and need to negotiate about. Finally, evaluating the impact of the action strategy on others ' feelings. How would it make him feel? Should I empathize with him or not give a hoot about what he thinks? Because it’s his turn why should I care about what he feels or he needs to do some work and he just needs me to take over this one time so he can finish. It will all depend on the situation. The disadvantage is that if the viewpoints between my roommate and I are to distant then progress is difficult to achieve. Usually that is the case. Like I explained earlier, we don’t let each other know as much as we should why I should or why he should take over for the night. Another drawback goes back to the power struggle. If I continuously agree with him, I know he will then feel like alpha of the house. I won’t let that happen. Lastly a drawback could
I chose Moises because I’m always around him. Even if I don’t want him, he’s around. We talk a lot; in fact, we talk about almost anything. In the end we are just really good friends so we communicate very well. Even though we communicate well, there are still some breaks in there somewhere, where sometimes we get some misunderstandings. There are times we have …show more content…
What usually happens in our relationship is that once I get home from school or come out of my room and I see the house dirty or a pile of dishes it immediately ticks me off. I go to confront him like, “dude it is your turn to wash the dishes today because I washed them last time.” Then he usually comes back with the “But you are the one who messed them up” even though I wash all the dishes together even if I messed them up or not. Negotiating in that situation would make it ten times better to get my point across in which I’m saying we should share the responsibility. My only goal is to be able to communicate with my roommate at the best of my abilities. We need to learn how to communicate and negotiate everything that is negotiable. Even if there is something that I really would not negotiate with him, for the sake of this paper I will experiment with new communicating skills. So every day after school or on the weekends if I see an opportunity at something that we might fight over I’m going to take it and practice negotiating with him at the best of my …show more content…
Our problems are usually a power struggle being two males in a house. My next strategy will be proposing or justifying an action to resolve the conflict, I will ask my roommate why It should be mine or his turn to do whatever it is that we usually argue and need to negotiate about. Finally, evaluating the impact of the action strategy on others ' feelings. How would it make him feel? Should I empathize with him or not give a hoot about what he thinks? Because it’s his turn why should I care about what he feels or he needs to do some work and he just needs me to take over this one time so he can finish. It will all depend on the situation. The disadvantage is that if the viewpoints between my roommate and I are to distant then progress is difficult to achieve. Usually that is the case. Like I explained earlier, we don’t let each other know as much as we should why I should or why he should take over for the night. Another drawback goes back to the power struggle. If I continuously agree with him, I know he will then feel like alpha of the house. I won’t let that happen. Lastly a drawback could