My Era Of Sleeping With Dickheads Is Over Analysis

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So I was reading this article that popped up on my Facebook, by Alana Lousie May. Tilted 'My era of sleeping with dickheads is over '. Which made me laugh because we 've all said that more than once. ;) It 's worth going and reading her original article before you read this, so you have some background knowledge on the topic.

http://alanalouisemay.com/blog/2015/4/15/the-era-of-sleeping-with-dickheads-is-over

As you know I am currently reading Queen Afua 's 'Sacred Woman '. I know, I said that like five months ago, and I 'm still reading it. Procrastination is real people!! Anyway Queen Afua speaks about the need for women to just stop having sex for a while and take the time to get in touch with themselves. Yes abstinence, that word sends
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Physically, spiritually, emotionally. So if your man is not healthy, him being inside you is going to make you unhealthy. If your man is unhappy, depressed, negative, he will drag your spirit down too. Simple right? Even though I never thought about it like that. But this rule applies to everyone, not just lovers. If people are a source of negativity, CUT THEM OFF AND CUT THEM OUT OF YOUR LIFE. You better believe if I 'm talking to a guy and he comes with that f**kboy negativity, he will find himself blocked and erased from my memory. So if your constantly dealing with the stress of a man that does not deserve your time, then that 's simply not good. You shouldn 't be putting your time, energy and vagina into someone and getting nothing but a little dick with a huge attitude in return. (I 'm getting petty, let me …show more content…
"If you get to 25 and you 're still saying n***gas ain 't shit, then your looking at the wrong guys." So when I say Queens need to stop sleeping with dickheads, I 'm not saying to stop having sex. (You can do the whole abstinence thing if you want) I 'm saying stop giving yourselves to men that do not DESERVE you. The other day this guy asked me why I 'm single and I said, because 'I haven 't met anyone that DESERVES ME. ' He probably thought I was a bitch, but that 's how it goes from now on. Me 1st, sorry.

So there you have it. This one is going to be short and sweet, because there is really no need for me to go on ranting. I guess you should do what makes you happy, all I can do is urge my fellow sisters to take the time to find themselves.

Agree or disagree with what I said? Got any advice for a young black girl out here? Completely hate my guts? Let me all know in the comments below. Thank you ladies.

Stay blessed

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