Reflecting on my emotions for the past week, I can say I haven’t really improved. I still feel the same sadness, the same lack of motivation and an even higher level of stress than I was experiencing last week, due to midterms. It seems like everything is just pilling up, I feel like my days are no longer purposeful, I take forever reading and finishing my homework, and since I take long I get discouraged and start questioning myself, by asking “Am I smart enough to be here or “why am I even here?” Those are a couple of the most common questions that seem to weaken my ability to function. Ever since my husband left to boot camp, I haven’t fully recovered from the emotional break down. I miss him, and that is the sad part. Since he left, about
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I clearly remember asking her, “Why they had decided to give it an end?” and all she said was, “He just didn’t do something I wanted him to do.” Those words shocked me, because she didn’t even know what she wanted from him. She was not able to tell me what he had done wrong. Instead she took care of the situation, in my views in a childish way with no explanations. With her response, I exploded, all of my repressed emotions kicked in, and I told her off. This incident made me reflect and connect to what Goleman refers to as an emotional hijacking. Goleman defines the process by stating, “The hijacking occurs in an instant, triggering this reaction crucial moments before the neocortex, the thinking brain, has had a chance to glimpse fully what is happening...” (14). Therefore, based on this interpretation, my response to her was clearly over taken by my emotions, that I didn’t really process my thoughts before answering. I was in a state where my cognition was overpowered by my emotions. The fact that I told her off was an impulsive feeling that took over my …show more content…
At the moment I was detected several emotions, such as anger and sadness but the one that stood out the most was jealously. I was jealous, because she actually had the opportunity to be with him and see him everyday, and perhaps work something out. She was able to run to him if any thing was to happen, and she was putting an end to the relationship simply because he was not on her page that day. I know I should have probably been a little more understanding, and continued talking about the problem, but I was just emotionally unavailable to guide her. I am currently at the opposite end, I would love to argue, laugh and spend some time with my husband, and she that is able to do so is distancing herself, because things didn’t go her way. From my end, I am at that point, where I would do just about anything just to see or hear my husband. This idea of jealousy, in my opinion reflected one of Clanton’s findings on jealousy views. The fact that I was jealous in this situation just reinforced what Clanton (1989) claims, “ Before about 1970, much jealousy was seen by many as proof of love” (180). In a way I feel like my jealousy was proving my love towards my husband. I cannot go a day without writing to him, or just going to sleep wearing one of his shirts. Therefore, this view of jealousy as a proof of love, correlated with my emotions. He makes the claim that today; people see jealousy as a personal defect
I clearly remember asking her, “Why they had decided to give it an end?” and all she said was, “He just didn’t do something I wanted him to do.” Those words shocked me, because she didn’t even know what she wanted from him. She was not able to tell me what he had done wrong. Instead she took care of the situation, in my views in a childish way with no explanations. With her response, I exploded, all of my repressed emotions kicked in, and I told her off. This incident made me reflect and connect to what Goleman refers to as an emotional hijacking. Goleman defines the process by stating, “The hijacking occurs in an instant, triggering this reaction crucial moments before the neocortex, the thinking brain, has had a chance to glimpse fully what is happening...” (14). Therefore, based on this interpretation, my response to her was clearly over taken by my emotions, that I didn’t really process my thoughts before answering. I was in a state where my cognition was overpowered by my emotions. The fact that I told her off was an impulsive feeling that took over my …show more content…
At the moment I was detected several emotions, such as anger and sadness but the one that stood out the most was jealously. I was jealous, because she actually had the opportunity to be with him and see him everyday, and perhaps work something out. She was able to run to him if any thing was to happen, and she was putting an end to the relationship simply because he was not on her page that day. I know I should have probably been a little more understanding, and continued talking about the problem, but I was just emotionally unavailable to guide her. I am currently at the opposite end, I would love to argue, laugh and spend some time with my husband, and she that is able to do so is distancing herself, because things didn’t go her way. From my end, I am at that point, where I would do just about anything just to see or hear my husband. This idea of jealousy, in my opinion reflected one of Clanton’s findings on jealousy views. The fact that I was jealous in this situation just reinforced what Clanton (1989) claims, “ Before about 1970, much jealousy was seen by many as proof of love” (180). In a way I feel like my jealousy was proving my love towards my husband. I cannot go a day without writing to him, or just going to sleep wearing one of his shirts. Therefore, this view of jealousy as a proof of love, correlated with my emotions. He makes the claim that today; people see jealousy as a personal defect