The most recent conflict which I was involved in, is when I started college at the University of South Carolina Salkehatchie. I majored in Education to become a teacher, knowing teaching wasn’t what I really wanted to do. I went because it was what my mother’s wanted me to do. I was torn between teaching and the medical field. Teaching seemed easier than going into the medical field, and my mother didn’t want me to struggle in the medical field like she did to get her degree. My mother and I was in a Simple Conflict which we both understood each other goals or ideas but we disagree with each other (Beebe 217). Personally me, I don’t like to make my parents angry with me so I went with my mother decision. This was the wrong decision I made, this resulted in me failing
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As for me and my mother, whatever decisions I want to make she lets me and she just pray that my decisions I make will not hurt me overall. My mother relationship with me has gotten from one stage to another, we became closer we had a Relational development (Beebe 250).
As time goes by I do sit and think what my life would have been like if I would have spoken up and follow my own decisions. Although I know in life sometimes things will not go the way they should go because things are already predestined in our life. I don’t look at my mother as if she messed up my life, I look at her and see where she taught me you will have to stand up and speak out in life. You can’t let someone make your life decisions for you.
The way we could have ended our discussion was Bilateral dissolution which means ending a relationship or discussion by mutual agreements for both of us (Beebe 288). Even though it didn’t ending like this we still manage to come to an agreement over the times, which was I make my decisions and if I fall short I will learn from that
As for me and my mother, whatever decisions I want to make she lets me and she just pray that my decisions I make will not hurt me overall. My mother relationship with me has gotten from one stage to another, we became closer we had a Relational development (Beebe 250).
As time goes by I do sit and think what my life would have been like if I would have spoken up and follow my own decisions. Although I know in life sometimes things will not go the way they should go because things are already predestined in our life. I don’t look at my mother as if she messed up my life, I look at her and see where she taught me you will have to stand up and speak out in life. You can’t let someone make your life decisions for you.
The way we could have ended our discussion was Bilateral dissolution which means ending a relationship or discussion by mutual agreements for both of us (Beebe 288). Even though it didn’t ending like this we still manage to come to an agreement over the times, which was I make my decisions and if I fall short I will learn from that