Motivation In Daniel H. Pink's Book Drive

Convincing your children to do things they don't want to do can be a hustle. And making them stop doing the things you don't want them to do can be a challenge. Very often, parents believe that the only way to get their children to do what they want them to do is by giving them rewards such as candy or toys. Although rewards are an effective way to get your children to do what you want them to do, it can backfire and your children might become dependent on rewards, and if you stop giving rewards, they will not do what you want them to do. In Daniel H. Pink’s book Drive, he analyzes how motivation 2.0, incentives doing good in something and punishments for not doing your job as expected, does not often work. Individuals who follow motivation …show more content…
Parents often concern themselves when they see their children watching TV or using an iPad and are too nervous to give them autonomy and leave their children unattended. Instead of controlling your children’s choices and not letting them use or watch something, parents should appropriately support and guide their children on what is wrong and what is right. Also, when children ask “Why” to your “No’s” instead of saying “Because I said so”, parents should explain to them why because that opens a learning space and an important skill, they eventually learn how to critical think. They learn critical thinking by the parent sharing the reason behind your choice and explaining why you chose it. As Deci analyzes, “’…focus on the short-term and opt for controlling people’s behavior,’ they do considerable long-term damage’” (37), this suggests that parents that want to control their children’s behavior and not give them enough autonomy may lead the children to grow up into controlling people themselves. So, giving your children autonomy will lead them to grow up into adults that learn how to control their every emotion/behavior. It is very important for children to learn to be intrinsically motivated at a young age, so that they can carry it throughout their adulthood. Parents often use Motivation 2.0 to reward their children to get them to do what they want or for bringing home good grades. Using Motivation 2.0 for parenting doesn’t always work out so well. For example, if your child keeps bringing home good grades and to get them to keep doing that you tell them you’ll reward them each time they bring home good grades, right? Well that is what can go wrong, Deci says, “People use rewards expecting to gain the benefit of increasing another person’s motivation and behavior, but in doing that, they often incur the unintentional and