Mother-Daughter Conflict In Girl, By Jamaica Kincaid

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Mommy Dearest In many places in the world there are mothers who live vicariously through their children because they could not exceed in their own lives so they push their kids to do things that they wish they had the chance to do. Sometimes tis can be a good thing because their over determination for their kids may cause the kids to go into a good path for their future leading them to have a successful life. Often times, their over determination can cause their kids to take the wrong direction because they put constant pressure on kids to be something they are not. These cases happen between mothers and daughters, living their dreams through their daughter because they either did not have the opportunity or want a better life for their children. …show more content…
The conflict of this story was a mother-daughter conflict; the reason being is in the entire story the mother tells her daughter how she should act, what she should wear, and how to cook food. Her mother in her own way tries to teach her to be a respectful lady. The mothers fear is that her daughter will become a slut which is why she is so strict on her daughter because the mother wants her daughter to have a good with a husband. I think the reason why the mom push so hard for her to have a husband is that they live in St. John and sex trafficking is happening and her mother wants her to be protected. The daughter in this story does not have much of an opinion because every time she tries to speak for herself the mother just ignores her and talks over her or insinuates that if she does not do certain things she will become a …show more content…
Instead of the mother trying to let the daughter find her future, she forces her to do things that she does not want to do because the mother believes that anything can happen in America. In the beginning, the daughter does these crazy things because she really wanted to please her mother. She thinks that if she does this it will make her mother proud of her. Yet as time goes on, all her mother does is criticize her and would compares her to famous child prodigy. For example, she tries to become the famous Chinese version of Shirley Temple, but because the barber mess up her hair, the mother tells her she looks like a negro Chinese person. Or, when she looks in the magazine her mother read that a little kid became a prodigy because he can name all the capitals of different countries around the world, the mother criticizes her for not knowing the Capital of Finland. Instead of being supportive of her daughter and giving her the time she needs to live as a child and try to develop what she wants to be in life, her mother pushes her too hard. This ultimately put a damper on their mother-daughter relationship because the daughter gave up hope because if she was not good enough for her mother now then she would never be. This is the reason why the daughter did not care for the piano lessons she was taking which ultimately causes her mother embarrassment when

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