Modern Dating

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The problem with rejection in modern dating, and why men are doomed to fail without coaching.

We live in a society where you can meet anyone in the world, and no one is getting out of their house. We have been disillusioned with the idea that we will always have options and that notion is making it increasingly difficult to meet singles. We have the opportunity to meet singles with the swipe on a phone in an instant, yet men find it cumbersome to actually meet that woman. This perfect storm of availability and untrained men breeds a permeating culture of missed connections and unsolicited dick pics. Men need coaching more than ever, and that is where I come in.

Dating apps are plentiful, diverse and reaching in the thousands, with more
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The problem is, as men, we are 'supposed to know how to date'. It is one of those 'ego' things with men. The hardest thing I have found in my business is overcoming another man's ego. It is okay to not be great at this stuff, it is not something you are born with. Even if you have a lot of confidence or charisma, those are learned traits and a man should not be judged on the things he chooses to learn instead. Some men deal with rejection better than others. So men get into relationships from our social circles. They go on to marry those women, go through a divorce, and are forced to learn these things at the age of 45. I have also picked up clients that their societal norms are to focus on education and career at a young age. Thus, finding themselves being successful in business, but virgins (not by choice) into their late 20's and early 30's. Optometrists and heart surgeons are both doctors, but I would never judge a heart surgeon based on his knowledge of eyes so this leaves me with the question; why does society hold men to strict standards of dating? Women complain about men turning into 'Fuck Boys', yet criticize or look down upon a man that seek guidance from another man to become better in social situations. It is my job to work towards changing the social stigma of men's self-improvement in relationship matters. I want someone to view my services the same way as a man hiring a personal trainer to become physically better. My job is flexing their internal communication muscles while raising their confidence levels to develop a more well-rounded individual. I respect anyone that wants to improve their life and I think it is the time we realize that not everyone in this field is teaching "boys" how to use

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