Kimmel On Identity

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Looking over the identity wheels and my notes from the interview, I noticed that Mr. D acknowledged certain parts of his identity much more than other parts of his identity. Mr. D is a newly opened bisexual male. He talked about this part of his identity the most throughout our conversations. He talked about how he was a target and how that made him feel. He talked about how his newly found identity was a problem for his wife and that was one of the reasons they got a divorce. How expressed some anger sadness towards his ex-wife on how she handle it. He felt like she devalued him because he had thoughts of bisexuality fantasies. He also talked about how his religion played a critical role in this decision. Mr. D is Jewish and the Jewish faith …show more content…
Kimmel’s reading, he suggest men are always in competition with each other to gain each other’s approval that they are being “real” men. The reading stated that men are more concern with what other men think about them than what women think (Kimmel, 2013). When Mr. D was talking about how he worries about what other men think of him and had fears of losing his manhood, I immediately thought about Kimmel’s article. I could see how this idea that men needs other men approval to feel like a true man. Mr. D expressed this idea in the way he talked about not wanting to lose his …show more content…
D what he felt were his less salient identities. He said that his class status, age, and ability. I was very interested into why he said class because I was not expecting him to say that one. He said that he will never have to worry about money or going broke because his entire family is wealthy. His parents passed down land, money, and investment opportunities to him and his brother. Plus, he said that he has an education and his own way to produce wealth to keep the cycle going. I noticed when he was talking about it, he seem cocky. Then he went on to say that he never really through about his class because this is how his life has always been. In Collins, Yeskel, and the United for Fair Economy and Class Action’s (2013) reading, they state that having wealth is very important for people to have something to fall back on and to pass to their children. The reading also talked about how race plays an important role determining who has or can get wealth. White people have more wealth and it has been like this for a very long time, according to the information in the reading. I can see how Mr. D can be cocky because his race, what he already have, and what his parents passed down to him are safety nets for him to say wealthy. It also can explain why he never has to worry about going broke or being

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