1. “Boys don’t cry”
2. “It’s better to be Mad than Sad”
3. “Don’t Get Mad, Get even”
4. “Take It Like a Man”
5. “He who had the Most Toys When he Dies, Wins”
In these articles “‘Bros Before Hos’: The Guy Code” by Michael Kimmel and “Hidden Intellectualism” by Gerald Graff they relate to Wes#1 and Wes#2 growing up and learning to be a man that is acceptable in “guyland”. Kimmel discusses “the guy code” as the expectations and rules of being a man. “‘The Guy Code’ is the collection of attitudes, values, and traits that togetherness…
What does it mean to be a man? What makes a man a "man"? Some would describe being a "man" as being heroic, the light, or a role model. Bobby, the main character of Angela Johnson's book "The First Part Last", becomes what people would call a "man" throughout her story. The proof is written within the book.…
Guys are meant to act tough and show no fears, but in reality, all man wants to show other emotions not just masculinity. Moving on, I believe that this article is aiming for those…
If you somehow stumble across Michael Kimmel he’ll most likely give you an in depth and precise breakdown of the marveled “guy code”. In his essay, Kimmel explains that the guy code is a collection of attitudes, values, and traits that together compose what it generically means to be a “man”(Kimmel 542). Throughout his essay he discusses and dissects each aspect of becoming a man and the specific rules one must follow of the guy code. The text begins with a preposterous list of ten rules that are what Kimmel calls a “Real Guy’s Top Ten List” that broadly expand on how a man must act or what one must do in order to achieve society’s impeded manhood. The list refers to various aphorisms such as, “Boys Don’t Cry”, “Take it like a Man”, and “Nice Guys Finish Last” along with many others (Kimmel 541).…
Although Kimmel touches on many of the struggles and anxieties faced by men as they navigate their way to “manhood”, he does so in a way that leaves the reader believing that all guys today are set on a trajectory of aimlessness and a constant fraternity mentality. Kimmel seems to draw the wealth of his knowledge from personal interpretation and interviews with a number of students at various neighborhood bars and coffee shops. I feel like this approach leaves particular groups of individuals marginalized in Kimmel’s research, those driven individuals who may not frequent such places such as those with interests outside of drinking or in search of their next “hook up”. This bias allows the author to make blanket statements about men as a whole, and portray the lifestyle of a few as that of the…
In Bros before Hos Michael Kimmel argues that men are more prone to depression, suicidal behavior, and other forms of mental disorders than what women are. Men are four times more likely to drop out of school and are proven to be more emotionally disturb then girls. Guys will tend to get into fights twice as often. Lastly, they are six times more likely to be diagnosed with ADHD. During the essay the author tries to diagnose why this is.…
As far as the ability to gain insight to this particular subculture of American males, Kimmel’s methodology, while intentionally limited, is very…
Guyland highlights what it means to transition from a boy to a man in American society today. American men have created their own culture during those crucial ages between 16 and 26 that is allowing them to act in a bewildering fashion. Kimmel writes the book in a way to describe Guyland as an actual place; a place where guys can figure themselves out, and decide how they fit in the world around them. The shocking truth about this book is that it shows that most men don’t want to figure out their lives, they only want to stay young forever and stay unattached from school, parents, and girlfriends. Guyland gets into the inner workings of most all male social groups and really uncovers the reason men from our current generation are the way that…
Rod Ewdish 12/13/16 English 120 Professor Progar Men in Society Men go so far to prove what they fear than acquire what they truly desire. Throughout life, men are taught to be tough and to not express their true thoughts or emotions. The article “Bros before hoes,” written by Michael Kimmel, an American Sociologist specialized in gender studies, goes along and asks a number of men from different campuses and states what it simply means to be a man. What sorts of phrases or thoughts come to mind when someone instructs them to be a man. Richard T. Evans, a researcher of interdisciplinary studies, in “Faggots, Fame and Firepower” describes how most male shooters have been dismissed by their classmates/peers, both before and after their crime,…
What does it mean to be a man? To be a man is to be a responsible person in society which includes obeying the laws that govern the land. Therefore, it does not mean how old you are, as being a man is a growth that takes places over a period of time. Also, with the experience and challenges in society, the way one is nurtured also plays a key role in one being a man.…
In the reading “Bros Before Hos: The Guy Code”, Michael Kimmel critics what it means to be a man and the “Guy Code” they are expected to follow. According to Kimmel, masculinity is a problematic social construct that invokes behaviors that men tend to follow unconsciously. The unconscious behaviors that men tend to follow is know as the “Guy Code” that is passed down to them when they were young. Kimmel claims that boys follow the “Guy Code” at a young age because they don’t want to be considered gay or in masculine.…
It is known by many that American society is a patriarchal society, as are most countries’ societies. The patriarchal “ideal man” is a man who is physically fit, strong, exclusively masculine, heterosexual, cisgender, Anglo-Saxon, and sexist. Traditionally, each gender had its own role in patriarchal society. Men were the providers, protectors, disciplinarians, and strong ones. Women were the caretakers, cleaners, cooks, the ones who raised the children, and the nurses.…
Society tells men, “Don’t show any emotion!” “Don’t show any weakness!” “Don’t cry!”. The “gender police” is always watching you; your peers, family, and friends are watching you. Kimmel discusses how masculinity is always tested with critical words.…
People think that the life they live in today is normal since people live in this kind of life generation to generation. It seems like there are no many problems in our lives. However, because of our old style’s life, people live in an unalterable society. In this society, people learn how to survive from the previous generation. They learn how to be a human.…
Boys Will Be Boys “Boys will be boys”, is a saying that is heard all too often. Many think of it as a rational reasoning for a male child’s behavior. However, is it really a rational reasoning? What does such a seemingly harmless saying really do? “Boys will be boys” is an excuse for unacceptable behavior by a male taking no responsibility for their actions by blaming it on their gender.…