Essay On Mate Selection

Forms of mate selection. Can be discussed relative to parents’ selection and/or how one might select his/her spouse. Propinquity had much to do with the relationship between my husband and myself. We met in the military while stationed in Ft. Stewart, GA. We spent a lot of time doing the same things in the same areas. We got to know each other because of the proximity at which we worked to one another. There were other factors at play that came to our awareness as time progressed. We have experienced personal growth as a family due to increased knowledge, conflict resolution and problem solving. Coming to a mutual understanding of God’s plan for marriage was and is an indispensable foundation that has allowed us to grow in love, wisdom and understanding. Although it may not have been a determining factor in our relationship, my husband and I are six months apart in age. We entered the military at the same time and age. This could have been a factor that brought us together since we were participating in the same activities outside of work and were able to enjoy this time together. I believe the exchange theory came into play during the mate selection process between my husband and me. I felt that I was a hard worker and deserved someone that was able to provide as much for the family as I …show more content…
Shortly after we had children my husband and I decided that I would stay home with the children while he became the sole bread winner for the family. At the time of this decision he was finishing up his bachelor’s degree while I was attending school for nursing. Our twins were in their toddler stage, we had recently moved to a new place with no family or friends to help us, and the stress became overwhelming. We both had so much going on while the other was not around that it was hard for us to see the situation through one another’s eyes which led our expectations of one another to be