If you have ever taken a psychology course, you may remember Mary Ainsworth and her “Strange Situation” experiment pertaining to attachment styles. I remember my professor repeating several times “attachment is a psychological connection to another,” and our attachment to another was based on if and how they met our needs. During a developmental course, my mentor said, “the attachments we formed as children have lasting effects on us as adults.”
Another “Psych 101” concept I remember was the debate of “Nature vs Nurture.” The main question of the debate was: What has the greatest influence on our lives: nature (our genetic make-up and hereditary factors) or nurture (our environment and experiences).
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In Ainsworth’s experiment, the attachment style of the child was noted by the reaction when the parent left the room, the level of interaction with the stranger in the room, the reaction when the child was reunited with the parent, and the level of comfort based off of parent’s reaction. In a sense, attachments by nature are we AUTOMATICALLY become attached to. I consider these attachments the ones that are formed within our immediate environment when we are not able to control who or what can be within our immediate sphere of influence.
From these attachments, we formulate our own definitions of trusts, need-fulfillment, and security. We also use these attachments as a basis for relationships as we grow older. Hindsight is always 20-20, so we see in part that some of our "attachments by nature" could be the reason for some of our relationship “FUBARs.” The good thing about maturity is that discernment often time accompanies it. In this discerning process, one can pinpoint the nucleus of the matter and synthesize the attachment with a new and informed
Another “Psych 101” concept I remember was the debate of “Nature vs Nurture.” The main question of the debate was: What has the greatest influence on our lives: nature (our genetic make-up and hereditary factors) or nurture (our environment and experiences).
Now that we have refreshed our memory, I want …show more content…
In Ainsworth’s experiment, the attachment style of the child was noted by the reaction when the parent left the room, the level of interaction with the stranger in the room, the reaction when the child was reunited with the parent, and the level of comfort based off of parent’s reaction. In a sense, attachments by nature are we AUTOMATICALLY become attached to. I consider these attachments the ones that are formed within our immediate environment when we are not able to control who or what can be within our immediate sphere of influence.
From these attachments, we formulate our own definitions of trusts, need-fulfillment, and security. We also use these attachments as a basis for relationships as we grow older. Hindsight is always 20-20, so we see in part that some of our "attachments by nature" could be the reason for some of our relationship “FUBARs.” The good thing about maturity is that discernment often time accompanies it. In this discerning process, one can pinpoint the nucleus of the matter and synthesize the attachment with a new and informed