Marriage: My Idea Of A Successful Marriage

In the creation of this contract, I learned a lot about my partner. Jonathan pleasantly surprised me with his ability to negotiate kindly, and his demonstration of patience even when my own emotions ran high. The most unpleasant surprise was his reaction to the “non-veto” condition when we discussed meal preparation, because it appeared to me that he did not trust my judgment and did not recognize that I will always want to make him both happy and healthy. In the process it also reiterated how well our values align, especially the overarching ones like the importance of family and giving back to our society. Although we are both young and have maturing to do, marriage is a viable option for us in the future. I also learned background knowledge …show more content…
For example, buying a house together, settling into a career, and having children are all important milestones to me. This conformity ensures that society will continue to function as it always has, and also shields me from the rejection of peers due to atypical behavior. Specifically, the region I am from (a southern state) has instilled in me deep-rooted patriotism and belief in freedom, and that I should value my birthplace. This translates into one of my goals for marriage, to give back to my country. My church has taught me that religion should be central to my marriage, and that raising children to believe in God is the right way, even if it takes away some of their freedom to choose their lifestyle. My partner and I believe we are making decisions independently, but in reality we are just responding to a sum of influences in our lives based on experience. He has learned a lot about where my views come from as …show more content…
It is much more than just loving someone- it will affect every aspect of my life. From purchasing appliances to visiting my family, I will always have to consider my partner and his feelings too. Marriage makes an individual compromise, even when they feel strongly about a matter. I became acquainted with this when we discussed how long we would be married before we tried to have children. I have also come to terms with living the status-quo. Although I now actively realize marriage is an institution I have been trained to find appealing, I do not think this is a negative thing. Humans are social beings and society is able to function because we interact with each other and set normal practices Of all things I have learned, however, most important is that filling out a contract can provide useful insight into how compatible two people truly are. Marriage is designed to aid a couple, and although it is impossible to know everything about a person, discussing important matters before committing is intrinsic to