Essay on Marriage Is A Great And Memorable Event

832 Words Apr 7th, 2016 4 Pages
Marriage is a great and memorable event. Every culture has their versions of a wedding and all, but let me tell you about the Hmong version. First thing first, the couple have to be willing and in love. Either parents need to approve of the marriage because if the girlfriend agrees then all the boyfriend needs to do is bring his girlfriend home. As soon as they knock on the door and when the door is open, the boyfriend calls for his dad and say, “dad, I brought NYAB home.” Nyab is the Hmong word for daughter-in-law. Then father will go get a chicken and holding by its feet, swinging the chicken around his son and nyab saying Hmong blessings and all then welcomes his son and nyab into the house because it’s against the ancestors to bring a girl over to spend the night in the same room, same bed. Once this procedure is done, the son kowtow (act of showing deep respect by kneeling) to his parents and older male siblings. After doing this, the father will phone everybody in the family and set a date for a big, family meeting.
On the day of the meeting, the son kowtow to his male elders be uncle and grandfather and his fiancé helps prepare a feast with her mother-in-law and the aunties. When everyone is done eating, the guys sit around and discuss who will represent the house of the family and who will go and negotiate with the other side, the bride’s side. After agreeing on everything, two messengers are sent to tell the bride’s parent, “Please don’t look for your…

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