Marriage Hack: Why Couples Decline Over Time

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I think that marital/relationship satisfaction declines over time simply because people stop trying. The couple gets used to the routine, they stop fighting for each other, and they lose interest. There are others factors that could contribute as well, such as fighting or lying. But most of those things can be resolved if they continue to fight for each other. So, I believe that a lack of effort and losing interest is why couples decline over time.
The “Marriage Hack” is a simple procedure that helps you solve a major problem in your life or in this case marriage. The focus of the “Marriage Hack” is on conflict. It is designed to give us the psychological space we need in order to fight constructively.
I think the “Marriage Hack” works for

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