Man Changing Men By Robert Allen And Paul Steinem's Men Changing Children

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Gloria Steinem states, “We 've begun to raise daughters more like sons … but few have the courage to raise our sons more like our daughters." The words of Steinem reflect how today’s society has embraced raising daughters to be independent leaders, yet parents are still afraid to stray from raising their sons according to gender norms. It will be argued that the reinforcement of stereotypical masculinity is harmful, as boys are told that violence and dominance is natural, and this has a lasting effect on their adulthood. Steinem believes that to raise a son untraditionally is a truly audacious act, as it rejects the notion that ‘manly’ characteristics are innate. Accordingly, the article Men Changing Men by Robert Allen and Paul Kivel demonstrates …show more content…
Furthermore, Allen and Kivel explain that 1 in 6 boys are sexually assaulted, and that most boys have been humiliated by a male. That being said, boys believe that if they do not …show more content…
Firstly, by denoting men as dominant, strong willed, and unemotional, society is placing men in what Allen and Kivel refer to as a “act like a man box”. This box describes cultural views of masculinity, and promotes the conformity to pre-determined norms. This notion is extremely harmful, as men may lose their individuality by suppressing desires that do not align with manliness, in fear of rejection and shame. In reality, very few guys naturally fit inside the box during all, or any stages of their lives, yet they are determined to prove and act like they are. Moreover, men may hide their sexual orientation, become violent, and even chose a specific job just to maintain the ‘ideal’ image prescribed by society. When a male decides to stray from gender expectations, he is often called names such as “sissy”, “pussy” and “momma’s boy”, which are offending due to their female connotations. Not only are these insults harmful to the self-esteem of males, but they imply that feminine characteristics are wrong, and reinforces the stereotype that women are

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