One may ask why would a woman date a man in prison with no chance of being released. To that I say “Well they can’t run.” During the documentary “Making a Murderer” Stephen Avery has three different consensual relationships at different times while he is imprisoned. (Demos and Riccardi 2015)This caused us to raise the question, do people need to be needed? Do we need to feel validated by others to be able to function correctly? I believe that we do need to be needed. I think that as human being our emotions have a huge effect on us, they practically run our lives. I also think that this comes down to the psychological aspect of it as well. Our brains will tell us things without us even knowing. So you might not even know that you have this
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All people want to be is accepted or needed by someone, even if they don’t want to admit it to themselves. Part of that comes from childhood, as children we have very tender feelings. So when interacting with other children or siblings we want to feel accepted, and that trait carries over into adulthood. Not only that, but when we experience emotional pain our brain translates it the same way as physical pain. “Eisenberger ran studies with adults that showed our brains deal with social pain in the same ways it deals with physical pain. In other words, we hurt when we feel rejected or not accepted.” (Fisher-Yoshida 2014) So, when we get rejected it causes physical pain to our bodies so we will try to avoid that at all costs. There was also a study done that states “Living alone and being single both increase the risk of suicide.” (Staats Riess 2007) When you have no social interaction, and no one to need you or accept you, then you are at an increased risk of suicide. So without anyone to validate or accept you your emotions will run …show more content…
Michael Formica said “It is a survival mechanism wired into our primal core and, in part, drives our need for community and striving for connection.” He goes on to talk about how in the stone age to survive you had to be apart of a group, to hunt, protect yourselves from predators, etc.(Formica 2009) That desperate need to be apart of a group for survival has carried on through our DNA. So we associate being apart of a group with survival without even knowing. There are no more physical threats like defending yourselves from predators, so those threats has evolved to emotional threats and we reacted the same way. That is why rejection can hurt so bad and cause physical pain. Stephen Avery at one point while he was imprisoned mentioned that Jodi was the only reason that he was still hanging on.(Demos and Riccardi 2015). Then when his relationship with Jodi ended he was talking about how he wasn’t sure if anything was worth it anymore.(Demeos and Riccardi 2015) When he did not feel that acceptance of a group anymore he started to give up on life. Subconsciously without that link to a group that needed him he didn’t think he could survive. Emphasizing that we need to be needed in order to
All people want to be is accepted or needed by someone, even if they don’t want to admit it to themselves. Part of that comes from childhood, as children we have very tender feelings. So when interacting with other children or siblings we want to feel accepted, and that trait carries over into adulthood. Not only that, but when we experience emotional pain our brain translates it the same way as physical pain. “Eisenberger ran studies with adults that showed our brains deal with social pain in the same ways it deals with physical pain. In other words, we hurt when we feel rejected or not accepted.” (Fisher-Yoshida 2014) So, when we get rejected it causes physical pain to our bodies so we will try to avoid that at all costs. There was also a study done that states “Living alone and being single both increase the risk of suicide.” (Staats Riess 2007) When you have no social interaction, and no one to need you or accept you, then you are at an increased risk of suicide. So without anyone to validate or accept you your emotions will run …show more content…
Michael Formica said “It is a survival mechanism wired into our primal core and, in part, drives our need for community and striving for connection.” He goes on to talk about how in the stone age to survive you had to be apart of a group, to hunt, protect yourselves from predators, etc.(Formica 2009) That desperate need to be apart of a group for survival has carried on through our DNA. So we associate being apart of a group with survival without even knowing. There are no more physical threats like defending yourselves from predators, so those threats has evolved to emotional threats and we reacted the same way. That is why rejection can hurt so bad and cause physical pain. Stephen Avery at one point while he was imprisoned mentioned that Jodi was the only reason that he was still hanging on.(Demos and Riccardi 2015). Then when his relationship with Jodi ended he was talking about how he wasn’t sure if anything was worth it anymore.(Demeos and Riccardi 2015) When he did not feel that acceptance of a group anymore he started to give up on life. Subconsciously without that link to a group that needed him he didn’t think he could survive. Emphasizing that we need to be needed in order to