Essay 2 on Buck (research paper)
M.K Assantes’ family was strange when it came to communication. MK and Uzi father was never home, and their mother was dealing with severe depression. MK and Uzi both liked to run to streets. MK looked up to his older and only brother, which is very common in younger siblings, but Uzi wasn’t the influence that MK needed. After Uzi got sent away to live in Arizona with his uncle, Mk was on his own, and started to rebel more than ever. Could this all have been prevented with the correct and effective type of parenting. How could things have been different in the Assante household?
As the years go by, it seems like raising a child is getting harder instead of easier. Violence seems to be right around the corner, …show more content…
It can better your relationship with the child, or simply make it worse. Disciplining your child at a young age is when its best to start. It reduces the possibility of the behavior happening again. You want to stay firm and strong when scolding, and give rewards when they are acting well, so the positive behavior can continue. According to childdevelopmentinfo.com, “there is 3 Fs of effective parenting: firm, fair, and friendly. With firm, consequences should be clearly stated and then adhered to when the inappropriate behavior occurs. Fair: the punishment should fit the crime. Also, in the case of recurring behavior, consequences should be stated in advance so the child knows what to expect. And lastly, friendly: use a friendly but firm communication style when letting children know they have behaved …show more content…
Some parents stay together until the kids are grown, while others feel like there is nothing they can do to fix the marriage. Parents aren’t the only ones affected when it comes to divorce; kids have to deal with the mess too. You should always tell your child why you and your spouse are divorcing, no matter how painful it might be for them to hear and for you to say. “39% of kids surveyed said that they hide their feelings about the split from their parents, 20% said there’s no use of communicating because their parents are too wrapped up in themselves, and 14% said they couldn’t be honest with their parents about how upset the felt”(huffpost.com). Some kids tend to blame themselves for divorce, as if they could have prevented it from happening, or not being such a burden on the parents. Let your child/children know that it is not their fault and the separation has nothing to do with them. Effective parenting can be done in many different ways. Just by giving your child the love and affection they need, shows them how much they mean to you. “Effective parenting is learning to parent the child you have, not the child you wish you had (empoweringparnts.com). Many parents try to shape their child into something they just don’t want to be. Forcing a child to play football just because you did isn’t right. Find out what your child likes and what they are interested in. Never discourage your child’s interest or what activity they want to involve
M.K Assantes’ family was strange when it came to communication. MK and Uzi father was never home, and their mother was dealing with severe depression. MK and Uzi both liked to run to streets. MK looked up to his older and only brother, which is very common in younger siblings, but Uzi wasn’t the influence that MK needed. After Uzi got sent away to live in Arizona with his uncle, Mk was on his own, and started to rebel more than ever. Could this all have been prevented with the correct and effective type of parenting. How could things have been different in the Assante household?
As the years go by, it seems like raising a child is getting harder instead of easier. Violence seems to be right around the corner, …show more content…
It can better your relationship with the child, or simply make it worse. Disciplining your child at a young age is when its best to start. It reduces the possibility of the behavior happening again. You want to stay firm and strong when scolding, and give rewards when they are acting well, so the positive behavior can continue. According to childdevelopmentinfo.com, “there is 3 Fs of effective parenting: firm, fair, and friendly. With firm, consequences should be clearly stated and then adhered to when the inappropriate behavior occurs. Fair: the punishment should fit the crime. Also, in the case of recurring behavior, consequences should be stated in advance so the child knows what to expect. And lastly, friendly: use a friendly but firm communication style when letting children know they have behaved …show more content…
Some parents stay together until the kids are grown, while others feel like there is nothing they can do to fix the marriage. Parents aren’t the only ones affected when it comes to divorce; kids have to deal with the mess too. You should always tell your child why you and your spouse are divorcing, no matter how painful it might be for them to hear and for you to say. “39% of kids surveyed said that they hide their feelings about the split from their parents, 20% said there’s no use of communicating because their parents are too wrapped up in themselves, and 14% said they couldn’t be honest with their parents about how upset the felt”(huffpost.com). Some kids tend to blame themselves for divorce, as if they could have prevented it from happening, or not being such a burden on the parents. Let your child/children know that it is not their fault and the separation has nothing to do with them. Effective parenting can be done in many different ways. Just by giving your child the love and affection they need, shows them how much they mean to you. “Effective parenting is learning to parent the child you have, not the child you wish you had (empoweringparnts.com). Many parents try to shape their child into something they just don’t want to be. Forcing a child to play football just because you did isn’t right. Find out what your child likes and what they are interested in. Never discourage your child’s interest or what activity they want to involve