M6A1: Responses to Conflict
When it comes to conflict resolution, I could easily have been the poster child of what not to do for the vast majority of my life. Over the last five years or so I have been on a personal journey, focused on becoming a better, happier version of myself. As individuals, we have a choice in what our role is in dealing with conflict with others. Although I have made positive strides towards my lofty goal, I have much more to accomplish and to learn.
For many years I believed that the way that I dealt with conflict was above the fray and that I was this great communicator. Needless to say, I now know that I was being self-biased as well as completely inaccurate (Wood, 2016). What spurred me to self-improvement was not one single bad decision that I wished that I could undo or that I could do differently. It was when I was fortunate enough to have met a wonderful man, who didn’t have a bunch of baggage, who fell in love with me in spite of my many flaws. I realized early on in our relationship that I needed to make some changes or I would invariably lose him. Having him in my life and watching him be such a fantastic person made me want to become a better human being as well. According to Wood (P. 32), “Interpersonal communication is the primary way we build, refine, and transform relationships”.
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I am hopeful and optimistic about what the future holds. In the past, when I would have a disagreement I would justify my behavior in the conflict as the other persons fault. I have learned that as individuals, we have a choice in what our role is in dealing with conflict with others. Conflict can oftentimes be avoided by using effective communication, emotional intelligence and if all else fails grace (Wood,
When it comes to conflict resolution, I could easily have been the poster child of what not to do for the vast majority of my life. Over the last five years or so I have been on a personal journey, focused on becoming a better, happier version of myself. As individuals, we have a choice in what our role is in dealing with conflict with others. Although I have made positive strides towards my lofty goal, I have much more to accomplish and to learn.
For many years I believed that the way that I dealt with conflict was above the fray and that I was this great communicator. Needless to say, I now know that I was being self-biased as well as completely inaccurate (Wood, 2016). What spurred me to self-improvement was not one single bad decision that I wished that I could undo or that I could do differently. It was when I was fortunate enough to have met a wonderful man, who didn’t have a bunch of baggage, who fell in love with me in spite of my many flaws. I realized early on in our relationship that I needed to make some changes or I would invariably lose him. Having him in my life and watching him be such a fantastic person made me want to become a better human being as well. According to Wood (P. 32), “Interpersonal communication is the primary way we build, refine, and transform relationships”.
The first step …show more content…
I am hopeful and optimistic about what the future holds. In the past, when I would have a disagreement I would justify my behavior in the conflict as the other persons fault. I have learned that as individuals, we have a choice in what our role is in dealing with conflict with others. Conflict can oftentimes be avoided by using effective communication, emotional intelligence and if all else fails grace (Wood,