Love Essay

1440 Words Jan 31st, 2014 6 Pages
Caitlin Cataldi
Professor Delores Zumwalt
English 1302
June 22, 2013
Romance ideals
Love is like an addiction to drugs. Some people crave it while others fear it. We want intimacy, but we also fear it because we are scared of commitment, being close to someone or even being alone. Within society, people seem to invest more time in finding love immediately than they do in grasping the real concept of love. In a typical college town, you would see many teenagers hanging out in groups rather than hanging out individually. Hanging out in groups allows for less attachment and just looking to have a good time with the people you know. It is less risky and has less potential to being hurt. Spending time one on one allows one to build
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If love involves chemicals beyond our understanding, then love can be in many forms, not just one life long live.
Hook ups are becoming more common on college campuses. There are no strings attached – sexual encounters may be replacing romantic relationships. Traditional dating requires two things that college students don’t have: time and money. Jack Grimes writes in Hook-Up Culture that it seems like dating doesn’t exist anymore like it used to. He questions, “Where did it come from? Is it here to stay?” (Grimes 399). He wonders what happened to the old days that when a guy took you out on a date it was because to see if one liked each other. He explains how today the date just leads to meaningless hook ups. He states, “The hook-up culture is simply an environment that expects casual sexual encounters that do not necessarily lead to anything further” (Grimes 399). People hook up to fulfill sexual desires not looking to pursue into anything farther. He looks at hooking up as, “holding back, not giving all of one’s self, not committing” (Grimes 400). One reason people do this is because they fear intimacy. As Grimes states, “A sexual encounter is in its essence an act of deepest intimacy, and so to be considered worthy of that intimacy is powerful affirming and very exciting” (Grimes 399). People are scared of love and loving one another. They fear of commitment and where it might lead you. Some people just don’t commit because they are scared of being

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