Love Style Analysis Essay

As of today, I took the “Are you a good listener?” survey and the “My Style of Loving” inventory. I learned that one of the greatest keys of maintaining a good relationship is to be a great communicator. Not only does one have to speak; but also has to listen. As everyone owns their own style of communicating, we also have our own “love style” as well. According to Canadian writer, John Alan Lee, there are six basic love styles: Romantic, Altruistic, Manic, Companionate, Pragmatic, and Egocentric.
After completing the “Are you a good listener?” survey, it made me realize that I am somewhat passive in my conversations. I tend to let the speaker take control of the conversation. Rather than attempting to find a balance and taking over the conversation myself. However, I am not surprised that I rated myself a “confidential” conversationalist. I notice that in some cases, people I have conversations with tend to talk about personal issues. I have strong tendencies to not do the same thing in return. I speak on personal issues whenever I am asked about …show more content…
The inventory determined that I was a pragmatic lover. Pragmatic lovers deal with conflict sensibly and realistically. For example, a main consideration in choosing a mate is how she will reflect on my career. I would not put myself in a situation that does not amend the long run. Another example could be; I would not date anyone that I would not want to fall in love with. Lastly, I could not truly love anyone I would not be willing to take hand in marriage. John Alan Lee (1973) mentioned that “the costs and benefits associated with love are carefully weighed and considered before entering a relationship. If the ‘perfect mate’ items on the pragmatic lover’s list are fulfilled-suitability of education, family background, socioeconomic status, religion, and so-on the love candidate has a good chance of becoming a mate or life