Love In Junot Diaz's This Is How You Lose Her

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When it comes to defining love, there is no true instrument that can uphold the power of love. It is often described in fairytale that love can overcome evil and create a happy ending. It is reasonable to say that love seems to be the main underlying goal that we all strive in our lifetime. Junot Diaz’s This Is How You Lose Her presents us with a unique perspective on the topic of love. A typical human would always want a relationship and not stopping from loving each other. However, Diaz suggests that relationships do not always work that way. Cheating and betrayal seems to be the main issue of the novel, but it is love that actually triggered the cheating. Throughout the book, the theme love plays a major role in demonstrating a new viewpoint on how love works to a human being. Love challenges a person’s commitment and honesty. Honesty, a value that is highly treasured among human being. Honesty is important in many aspects and even in a relationship. Honesty is important for us to keep …show more content…
Yunior’s relationships had never had the chance to retain whenever they hit full sail. Yunior tried very hard to keep his love but end up betray his Juliet. Not to mention that even after the break ups, Yunior is haunted by his exes and that keeps him from being loyal to his new lover. No matter how Yunior wants to escape his fate, the shadow behind him always drags him back to the vicious cycle. In fact, he even admits at the final chapter of the book that “the half-life of love is forever” (Diaz, 217), which means even after a woman leaves his life, he still thinks that he is madly in love with her. Love is a very complicated subject and at the same time very subjective. We all have dreamed to have a perfect relationship and loving each other despite the disparities but Diaz showed us the very weakness of a human heart and how easily it can be

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