Idealistic Romantic Worship Turned Sour
The idea and definition of constructed and legitimate love and romance has been formulated over centuries all over the world. The general norm within America is that it is something everyone will recieve, the way to success, a necessity etc. Our society is so littered and permeated with stories revolving around love that it is often completely overlooked as a theme until the ideas of love depicted are straying away from the accepted idea. Our fascination with love is very telling of how our society thinks. Our definitions of this construct are constantly being sculpted by our experiences, and these definitions for some are becoming destructive as they revolve around idealistic properties. As idealism …show more content…
Love culture in America is too idealistic that it is too often creating monsters and misfits of otherwise ordinary characters due to harmful definitions based on obsessions/expectations, dependency/codependency, and romantic idealism.
Love is often seen and regarded as something much more idealistic and abusive than is its reality. The entire concept and construct of the idea of love is such a loose definition that anyone can claim it to be anything. The ability and limited education on what love should consist of is harmful to individuals, especially those pursuing a relationship. What someone’s definition of love shapes how they expect their relationship and lover to be. For example, if someone believes that they deserve love through their few redeeming qualities(a very common ideology), they may be quick to become frustrated and angry with the world as their expectation is not met. This definition was highlighted by Elliot Rodger, a 22 year old who murdered 6 people in Santa Barbara. He made several youtube videos explaining why he was doing his act, the ideas included the idea that he deserved love due to him being ‘attractive enough.’ Due to this definition he …show more content…
Love is highlighted as an initial feeling you are supposed to feel. That initial emotion in these movies are thereafter always reciprocated, which creates the idealistic misnomer quote ‘Love at first sight’. If we as a people do not recognize and realize this idea is not reality, “..we will let passion over-rule our higher mind and best judgement” (Atkinson, 1). This quote is ruled in the idea that through the initial biochemical high that we get from attraction, which we assume is love, judgement and perceptions are cast aside. This first dopamine boost is not love, but rather brain chemicals and hormones to start the thought of love. The play A Doll House by Henrik Ibsen exhibits the effects of romantic idealism well. The play is about a couple, the Helmer’s, in an uncommunicative marriage. The wife, Nora, has done forgery of her own father’s signature to save her husband’s, torvald’s, career, and she will not tell him due to knowing how he would respond. Throughout the play he treats her as though she is his child and views her as more of an object of desire rather than his wife. “Helmer: Yes, my own darling Nora. Do you know, when I am out at a party with you like this, why I speak so little to you, keep away from you, and only send a stolen glance in your direction now and then?--do you know why I do that? It is because I make believe to myself that we are secretly in love, and you are my secretly
The idea and definition of constructed and legitimate love and romance has been formulated over centuries all over the world. The general norm within America is that it is something everyone will recieve, the way to success, a necessity etc. Our society is so littered and permeated with stories revolving around love that it is often completely overlooked as a theme until the ideas of love depicted are straying away from the accepted idea. Our fascination with love is very telling of how our society thinks. Our definitions of this construct are constantly being sculpted by our experiences, and these definitions for some are becoming destructive as they revolve around idealistic properties. As idealism …show more content…
Love culture in America is too idealistic that it is too often creating monsters and misfits of otherwise ordinary characters due to harmful definitions based on obsessions/expectations, dependency/codependency, and romantic idealism.
Love is often seen and regarded as something much more idealistic and abusive than is its reality. The entire concept and construct of the idea of love is such a loose definition that anyone can claim it to be anything. The ability and limited education on what love should consist of is harmful to individuals, especially those pursuing a relationship. What someone’s definition of love shapes how they expect their relationship and lover to be. For example, if someone believes that they deserve love through their few redeeming qualities(a very common ideology), they may be quick to become frustrated and angry with the world as their expectation is not met. This definition was highlighted by Elliot Rodger, a 22 year old who murdered 6 people in Santa Barbara. He made several youtube videos explaining why he was doing his act, the ideas included the idea that he deserved love due to him being ‘attractive enough.’ Due to this definition he …show more content…
Love is highlighted as an initial feeling you are supposed to feel. That initial emotion in these movies are thereafter always reciprocated, which creates the idealistic misnomer quote ‘Love at first sight’. If we as a people do not recognize and realize this idea is not reality, “..we will let passion over-rule our higher mind and best judgement” (Atkinson, 1). This quote is ruled in the idea that through the initial biochemical high that we get from attraction, which we assume is love, judgement and perceptions are cast aside. This first dopamine boost is not love, but rather brain chemicals and hormones to start the thought of love. The play A Doll House by Henrik Ibsen exhibits the effects of romantic idealism well. The play is about a couple, the Helmer’s, in an uncommunicative marriage. The wife, Nora, has done forgery of her own father’s signature to save her husband’s, torvald’s, career, and she will not tell him due to knowing how he would respond. Throughout the play he treats her as though she is his child and views her as more of an object of desire rather than his wife. “Helmer: Yes, my own darling Nora. Do you know, when I am out at a party with you like this, why I speak so little to you, keep away from you, and only send a stolen glance in your direction now and then?--do you know why I do that? It is because I make believe to myself that we are secretly in love, and you are my secretly