Abelard And Heloise Relationship

As Abelard and Heloise may have began their love affair with passion and excitement, this young love soon became one full of drama and hardship. Once Heloise’s uncle, Flubert, discovered their relationship, there was a turning point in the characteristics of the relationship. The easy love and passion soon turned to guilt and obligation as they were separated and forced to come to terms with their secret affair. Over time, their lives may have both taken religious paths, yet they were not both on the same terms with this specific path. Heloise felt as though she was forced into becoming a nun, though she did later commit fully to her relationship with God. On the other hand, Abelard’s core purpose was always to dedicate himself to God with …show more content…
Abelard was a man who focused on his devotion and his entire life was dedicated strictly to it, while Heloise was a woman who wanted to devote her life to Abelard. The two were not only in different places in life, but also physically in two different places, unable to communicate or support one another. Their daily lives were not similar, therefore had nothing in common. As this progressed, Heloise became angry with Abelard and blamed him for where she was at in life. In the second letter of The Letters of Abelard and Heloise, Heloise wrote, “Why, after our entry into religion, which was your decision alone, have I been so neglected and forgotten by you that I have neither a word from you when you are here to …show more content…
Abelard and Heloise were not only in different parts of the world, but also in different parts of their faith, meaning different stages in life, which can deeply affect a relationship, especially when one’s faith is not respected. Heloise did not want to become a nun, and felt neglected by Abelard has he did not respect her wishes. As time passed, she soon began to devote herself to God, and had realized that she was putting her focus on the wrong man for all this time. In the fourth letter, Heloise wrote, “I have feared to offend you rather than God, and tried to please you more than him. It was your command, not love of God, which made me take the veil. Look at the unhappy life I lead, pitiable beyond any other” (69). At this point in her faith, she had accepted God and was truly devoted, but it was by her own terms. She had soon realised that Abelard did not respect her wishes, and that he had no longer any care for her, as well as the fact that she had put her attention on the wrong man all this time. She was unhappy, and knew it was because she devoted herself to the love of Abelard and not the love of