Looking Out/Looking In: A Conflict Style Analysis

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I chose the topic of conflict styles from chapter eleven of Looking Out/Looking In. I chose this topic because I have used every conflict style at least once in my life. Avoiding- My friend was very angry at me and I wasn't sure why. Instead of going up to her and asking what I did wrong I avoided her at all costs. This did nothing to resolve the conflict, and, if anything, made it worse. Accommodating- My friend and I disagreed on a certain subject, but instead of defending my point of view I simply let it go and let him have his way. By doing this I wasn't helping the conflict, because he proceeded to rub it in my face that he was right. Competing- I had a disagreement with my brother, but instead of letting him tell me his opinion

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