'Liking Is For Cowards And Faux Friendship'

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“Liking is for Cowards. Go for What Hurts.” by Jonathan Franzen and “From “Faux Friendship” by William Deresiewicz both emphasizes how friendship are being connected through the use of technology. Both agree that technology have evolved how we choose to interact with one another. In “Liking is for Cowards. Go for What Hurts,” Franzen point out how online social media and social networking service calls Facebook “built-in eagerness to be liked is a built-in eagerness to reflect well on us” (Franzen 145). He suggests using Facebook can aid profilers to make addition interest to reflect eagerness to be liked, but can limit how we traditionally communicate to each other. In the second article, “From Faux Friendship,” Deresiewicz demonstrate how

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