Lessons Learned Behaviors In Children

While I do agree that there is a correlation between the child’s inborn temperament (discussed on page 188-187) and environmental influences that triggers aggressive behaviors among children, I still believe that aggression is a learned behavior, and the BOBO Doll experiment explains it all. I have seen many pieces of evidence of learned behaviors in my children and other people's children. For example, first of all, I know that yelling is as bad as spanking, so I try very hard not to. However, sometimes kids are being disobedient brats, and I hate to admit that about 2 or 3 times, my daughters managed to push my buttons, and made me explode. I yelled at them and punished them by taking all their electronics. I believe my 3-year-old son had …show more content…
I have realized my mistake; I know my son learned it from me. Another example: growing up in the Philippines as biracial, especially if you are half black was not easy. As a child, I used to wonder why some kids were "my friends" and some were "not." As an adult, I understand now that racism is not something you were born with. It is "taught in our society [especially at home], it is not automatic. It is [a] learned behavior toward [people] with dissimilar physical characteristics" (Alex Haley). Just like my cousin who did not want to play with me when we were little kids and wouldn't touch my hand when we pray before dinner. According to her, her mom used to tell her that if she touches me, my color will rub off on her. She said that her mom has always been hostile towards people with different race. She believed that her mom learned it from her own parents who are also racists. My cousin is now a mother of two biracial children as well; half-Filipino and half-Black. I think living in a different country, or rather living in a different environment, changed her views about people with different races. She makes sure that her children will not be brought up the same way she was when she was a