Divorce: the termination of a marital union, and cancelling the legal duties of a marriage. The assertion that caught my attention while reading the book, Against Love, by Laura Kipnis, was in chapter three, The Art of Love, on page 140 when she says, “To those who want to maintain that non-divorced families turn out less neurotic or happier adults, the evidence supporting such views is a little scanty: please look around”. I agree with Kipnis that non-divorced families aren’t always happy because the indication backing that up is lacking. I can relate to Kipnis’ opinions about divorce because I am one of those who have divorced parents. Growing up, I was always so happy and thought I had the greatest and most lovable family of them all. Love
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Just because a family is divorced doesn’t mean a non-divorced family is any happier. A negative outcome of a family divorce, something I’m familiar with currently, is having to deal with a lower family income. I wouldn’t say I was a spoiled little boy growing up, but I was blessed with all the luxuries I had with clothes, food, and a comforting two-acre custom home I once had. We were probably an upper to middle class family. After the divorce however, we were being forced to sell our home and having to move in with my grandparents, just to save money. Luckily, the week before we had to move out, I found an affordable place we could live. It was tougher when college came around. I knew my top choices, and my top choice was one being out of state. I knew it would be more expensive but I knew it would be beneficial for me once I graduate college. My dad at first didn’t support me going out of state because of the financial costs. It was a roller coaster ride going back and forth with attorneys which makes having divorced parents so tough. As cliché as this sounds, love is a battlefield and can mix with your emotions. When families get divorced, it may for be for better or worse, but it usually always affects the children, like myself. Now, we are probably a middle to lower class family. You don’t ask to be living in a divorced family, but you have to make the best of it.
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A consequence that I went through was not seeing my dad as often, only seeing him once a week back when I was in high school. Another downside to divorce was family income. I lived with my mom and my sister, and we basically lived off our mother’s income while my dad paid monthly child support. On the bright side, I thought that I would get more presents for Christmas after my dad eventually remarried, but also I feel like I matured faster than others, having to be the new man of the house. Christina Aguilera had a similar thought, “My parent 's divorce and hard times at school, all those things combined to mold me, to make me grow up quicker. And it gave me the drive to pursue my dreams that I wouldn 't necessarily have had otherwise” . Without my parent’s divorce, I would be lazier. I work extra hours at my part-time job to pay for school and miscellaneous expenses, and I don’t think I would be trying as hard as I do in school, trying to prove that I am an intelligent student, especially with my dad who doesn’t have a college degree, who joined the Navy right out of high
Just because a family is divorced doesn’t mean a non-divorced family is any happier. A negative outcome of a family divorce, something I’m familiar with currently, is having to deal with a lower family income. I wouldn’t say I was a spoiled little boy growing up, but I was blessed with all the luxuries I had with clothes, food, and a comforting two-acre custom home I once had. We were probably an upper to middle class family. After the divorce however, we were being forced to sell our home and having to move in with my grandparents, just to save money. Luckily, the week before we had to move out, I found an affordable place we could live. It was tougher when college came around. I knew my top choices, and my top choice was one being out of state. I knew it would be more expensive but I knew it would be beneficial for me once I graduate college. My dad at first didn’t support me going out of state because of the financial costs. It was a roller coaster ride going back and forth with attorneys which makes having divorced parents so tough. As cliché as this sounds, love is a battlefield and can mix with your emotions. When families get divorced, it may for be for better or worse, but it usually always affects the children, like myself. Now, we are probably a middle to lower class family. You don’t ask to be living in a divorced family, but you have to make the best of it.
While Kipnis …show more content…
A consequence that I went through was not seeing my dad as often, only seeing him once a week back when I was in high school. Another downside to divorce was family income. I lived with my mom and my sister, and we basically lived off our mother’s income while my dad paid monthly child support. On the bright side, I thought that I would get more presents for Christmas after my dad eventually remarried, but also I feel like I matured faster than others, having to be the new man of the house. Christina Aguilera had a similar thought, “My parent 's divorce and hard times at school, all those things combined to mold me, to make me grow up quicker. And it gave me the drive to pursue my dreams that I wouldn 't necessarily have had otherwise” . Without my parent’s divorce, I would be lazier. I work extra hours at my part-time job to pay for school and miscellaneous expenses, and I don’t think I would be trying as hard as I do in school, trying to prove that I am an intelligent student, especially with my dad who doesn’t have a college degree, who joined the Navy right out of high