Ken Moses Theory Of The Grieving Process

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1. Ken Moses and Elizabeth Kubler- Ross both agreed on denial having some sort of purpose in the grieving process. Denial in our society is often looked as a negative emotion, but in my opinion I think this a normal reaction. In which someone has to go through denial to reach the other stages in the grieving process. Unlike Dr. Ross, Moses believed that denial is present through all the steps of his theory of the grieving process. Ken Moses states that denial is also important in order to function in daily life. This is the part that I have an issue with, while I think that is a regular emotion to feel denial. I also think that being denial for too long can cause some sort of false reality, in which the person might to believe in what they …show more content…
This can help immensely just so they can move on from this guilt that they are feeling. In my future career as an occupational therapist, I will be working with families that will either be in the beginning, middle, or end stages of the grieving process. Whichever it may be, I have to know what are the right steps for them, to keep moving on in their grieving process, whether they be in denial, fear, or even guilt.

2. As counselors we are going to have clients come to us with a variety of stories. There are three types of narratives that a client might tell their story in. Which are restitution, quest, or chaotic. Hints that can help you tell that if you are listening to a restitution story is if your client has a mind set of “any illness can be cured.” The Quest story can often be confused as if the person being happy that they have illness, so is why as counselor it is important to be an active listener and be prepared because in a quest story your client has learned a lot since they received their diagnoses and come to
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Minimal encourage helps you draw out the client’s story. Minimal encourage can include silence, verbal, and nonverbal. Examples of some of these would be a nod, words like “wow” and “ohh” repeating keys words that they used in their story can also help get more information for example “ Furious?” “Your fault?” When you paraphrase you are showing your client that you were listening to their story and the issues. When you paraphrase you do not repeat what you client has told you word for word, instead you repeat a shortened version of what they have shared with you that has important key words that they have used, while using the person’s name or “you”. Some of the things that paraphrasing accomplishes is a check for the speaker and listener, builds rapport, keeps the client focused, and keeps the patient talking or to move on. When practicing these skills in class, I was the listener and I found it very hard not to give any advice. Just because out of all my friends I’m usually the one that everyone comes to for advice. However, I am a very good listener and I did a good job in paraphrasing. When I wouldn’t understand something I tried to use minimal encourage and repeat keys words so they can further explain something without asking long questions. I did add some of my own interpretation when paraphrasing, which caused my “client” to have to retell her story. When you use a “check out” check out statement in paraphrasing it usually is a close ended question. For

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