Bleyer writes about how, at first, online dating profiles were well detailed with honest answers but “[t]hen came the smartphone and, with it, mobile dating apps that can make online dating seem downright quaint. Forget personality: proximity and pouty lips are the new landmarks in the quest for love” (Bleyer 174). In other words, the smartphones along with the online dating apps are the ones to blame for this shallow and judgemental way of approaching online dating profiles. Online dating profiles are not well detailed anymore. They are only filled with the unimportant details which can’t form the basis for a long term relationship. These details are only used for casual or short term relationships because choosing looks over personality can be regretful. Also bleyer says, “Meeting through a vast and dehumanizing virtual marketplace, Page says, encourage people to see each other more as products and less as people, and to not afford each other common courtesy, let alone the focused attention it takes to forge a real, intimate connection” (Bleyer 175). To put it another way, online dating apps are set up for casual hookups which makes the people care less about how special the date is because it really isn’t important for people who just want to hookup for a short period of time. This makes the people miss out on the real and …show more content…
Jurgenson surmises that so many people are fixated on the obsession of going offline, which is being abstinent from social media, but in reality, it is not true. For example he says, “disconnection from the smartphone and social media isn’t really disconnection at all” (Jurgenson 195). In other words, Jurgenson states that people need to know that not being online doesn’t mean being offline. Furthermore, Jurgenson isn’t quite against technology. He doesn’t think that social media is distracting us from real life because he surmises that social media is real life. For example he says, “Smartphones and their symbiotic social media give us a surfeit of options to tell the truth about who we are and what we are doing, and an audience for it all, reshaping norms around mass exhibitionism and voyeurism. Twitter lips and Instagram eyes: Social media is part of ourselves; the Facebook source code becomes our own code” (Jurgenson 192). The people have welcomed social media into their lives. It has already been done. And now that people have noticed its effect and how it has changed life experiences, they want to encourage abstinence from it. Jurgenson argues that it is impossible to be abstinent from what is already a part of lives. So when people think they are being abstinent from social media, they really aren’t.