Jay Scott Fitter who is the author of Respect Your Children: A Practical Guide to Effective Parenting and a licensed marriage and family therapist comments, “There are examples of making sure the parent is getting the child’s attention. . . “Spanking out of anger is a problem. However, spanking to instruct can be effective.” (Staples, 2014, Pg.2) A father who was interviewed on the topic also noted, “Kids need boundaries and they need to understand that there are consequences when they step outside those boundaries, When they are being really naughty, sometimes that means a smack. It’s tough love, but it is love because you care enough to put the effort into disciplining them.” (Helbers, 2011, Pg.3) And lastly, parents do not want to hurt their
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Spanking is a way that can make a child listen and understand what one is trying to get across when scolding does not work. A 22 year old named Colin recalls, “‘Looking at it now, I don’t see it as a negative thing,’ he says. He describes his and his sister’s upbringing as warm and loving, with spanking only a very minor part of childhood: ‘It helped me. It set me straight when I wasn’t listening to words.’” (Hanes, 2014, Pg.1) The Daily Toreador at Texas Tech University also writes, “When dealing with children, physical punishment is sometimes necessary to teach right from wrong. Probably like most of us, I was spanked as a child and quickly corrected my actions. Simply being admonished not to do something, I probably did it anyway. Scolding is an ineffective way to discipline your children, even more so in a society where we want it and we want it now.” (The Daily Toreador, 2014, Pg.2) Also depending on the child and the circumstance at hand, spanking is sometimes all that will get the child´s attention. Children can be unruly and will push your buttons. Paula Whaley who home schools her four children comments, “Every child is different. . . And there are children who are wilful, and when they’re toddlers and when they’re younger children, we believe that corporal punishment has been …show more content…
So to not send the wrong signal to the child of why you are spanking them. Stephanie Hanes writes while quoting Jared Pingleton, a family counseling director for a conservative Christian outreach group, “When his four sons were younger, he says, he would take time to cool off before calling them into a room to be paddled He say he was careful to make sure that the paddling stun, but did not do any long-term damage. The point, he says, is to give a brief physical pain that will last a lifetime. This he says, is far less damaging to children than Northeast-style permissive parenting, in which the child grows up thinking he is the center of the universe.” (Hanes, 2014, Pg.8) Sometimes persuasion and talking it out can work when trying to cope with a child. But when it does not work, parents need to understand that spanking can be an alternative and that if done correctly it will not hurt the child. When disciplining one’s child it is important to establish authority. But parents also need to know how far is too far. What their kid is like, and establish boundaries. If parents do this, it should not be seen as
Spanking is a way that can make a child listen and understand what one is trying to get across when scolding does not work. A 22 year old named Colin recalls, “‘Looking at it now, I don’t see it as a negative thing,’ he says. He describes his and his sister’s upbringing as warm and loving, with spanking only a very minor part of childhood: ‘It helped me. It set me straight when I wasn’t listening to words.’” (Hanes, 2014, Pg.1) The Daily Toreador at Texas Tech University also writes, “When dealing with children, physical punishment is sometimes necessary to teach right from wrong. Probably like most of us, I was spanked as a child and quickly corrected my actions. Simply being admonished not to do something, I probably did it anyway. Scolding is an ineffective way to discipline your children, even more so in a society where we want it and we want it now.” (The Daily Toreador, 2014, Pg.2) Also depending on the child and the circumstance at hand, spanking is sometimes all that will get the child´s attention. Children can be unruly and will push your buttons. Paula Whaley who home schools her four children comments, “Every child is different. . . And there are children who are wilful, and when they’re toddlers and when they’re younger children, we believe that corporal punishment has been …show more content…
So to not send the wrong signal to the child of why you are spanking them. Stephanie Hanes writes while quoting Jared Pingleton, a family counseling director for a conservative Christian outreach group, “When his four sons were younger, he says, he would take time to cool off before calling them into a room to be paddled He say he was careful to make sure that the paddling stun, but did not do any long-term damage. The point, he says, is to give a brief physical pain that will last a lifetime. This he says, is far less damaging to children than Northeast-style permissive parenting, in which the child grows up thinking he is the center of the universe.” (Hanes, 2014, Pg.8) Sometimes persuasion and talking it out can work when trying to cope with a child. But when it does not work, parents need to understand that spanking can be an alternative and that if done correctly it will not hurt the child. When disciplining one’s child it is important to establish authority. But parents also need to know how far is too far. What their kid is like, and establish boundaries. If parents do this, it should not be seen as