'Invisibility' By Shwab

In Schwab’s article about men copying with stressful life events, he shines light on the fact that we as male hide are feelings and emotions in order to live up to the standards of what society views as “masculine”. Schwab reports that males are at a higher risk to develop addiction to drugs alcohol and even have higher suicide rates. The two key points that Schwab discusses throughout his article in addressing the problem men face with copying with stress is “invisibility” and “visibility”. He states that invisibility focuses on the way in which we as men hide our emotions. Schwab draws and example from a 42 yr old man named Frank who talks about how his mother left his family at a young age and instead of missing his mom, he was told to …show more content…
I grew up in a family of four boys and although we always fought and drove my parents crazy we always got along at the end of the day because we love each other. I always felt comfortable going to my parents or family for help or if something was bothering me, but for some reason at the end of my junior of high school I was going through something that I felt like I couldn’t explain our express my emotions fully to my family. I grew up in a super competitive environment were sports controlled a lot of my emotions and feelings. I wasn’t playing on the high school team and was on the bench when my twin brother was playing and getting a lot of attention because of the success he was having on the field. This made things especially difficult for me as it increased all the stress in my life immensely. I felt like I was letting my father down which became really hard for me because I looked up to him so much, but felt like I was failing him in so many ways. I had no idea how to express my feelings of emotions to my father and family because I feared what they would think of me. I though that my dad would see me as weak or just wanting attention. I also though he would just tell me, to suck it up and figure it out on my own. I became invisible hiding all of my emotions from the world and too my family and all the people around me that loved and cared about me. After months of coping with this stress I finally decided to go to my older brother because I realized that it hurt to much to contain my emotions. To this day it was one of the best decisions I ever made and improved my relationship with him more than I could have ever imagined. He told me how he, just like me had felt the same way I had once upon a time and how he would always be there to help me out and