Interpersonal And My Conflict Style

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The conflict I chose to analyze is interpersonal and my conflict style is compromised. There was no conflict when I saw an ad announcing Maraj’s Jewellery auction, which was taking place at Frederick Street, Port of Spain, I have never attended an auction, and it so happen I decided to attend to satisfy my curiosity. In deciding to attend the auction is the latent stage of conflict, and this exists whenever individuals, groups, organizations, or nations have differences that bother one or the other, but those differences are not great enough to cause one side to act to alter the situation (Brahm, 2003). I had my passage to go and return, and the only other money I had was grocery which was to purchase for the month and it consisted of three …show more content…
The conflict I chose to analyze is an interpersonal. In the latent stage, the house I grew up in belong to my aunt who is the twin sister of my father, she does not reside their but my sister and father lived there, my father eventually died due to cirrhosis of the liver and my sister continued to live at that address. Conflict emergence occurred when word eventually reaches the ears of my aunt, that my sister stated she was not fixing anything in the house because their do not belong to her. This resulted in rapid conflict escalation from my aunt who responded by telling ‘the story’ to all family members. Eventually, it reach the hurting/ stalemate stage: a situation in which neither side can win, but neither side wants to back down or accept loss either (Brahm, 2003), My aunt eventually called my brother and I and informed us that she is selling the place, because she is not living there, and if my sister could use those remarks she will have to get her own. De-escalation/ negotiation is often also associated with reduced grievances, at least for members of one side (Kriesberg, 2003), she asks what do we think, my thoughts were where will my sister go? But I told her that it is her property and she should not have to fix somewhere she is not living, my brother informed her that she really tried with our sister and go ahead and sell. My aunt eventually reaches a Dispute settlement Grievances underlying the conflict are often reduced for one …show more content…
My style of conflict is accommodating. In the latent stage, apparently my coworker did not have anyone to talk with when she happens to call me wanting to talk, she told me that she met someone a while back and he has treated her very well, however he is married. Conflict emergence occurred when she further added that his wife and he are having marital difficulties, where they are contemplating a divorce but still resides in the same house. I was skeptical about him because a man can tell you anything to get into a person pants. I started to wonder if things was so great, why did she called me, apparently conflict escalation occurred when his wife found out about the relationship and confronted him, she also got hold of her telephone number, contacted her and told her to keep him because he is a no good. Their conflicts escalate for a while in the relationship, eventually they reach a stalemate, where she insisted she is not giving him up, and the wife wanting to reconcile the relationship, I tried to ask her what decision he made about his marital relationship. I tried to De-escalation/ negotiation by telling her she is worth more than that relationship. After several phone calls I realized there was no dispute settlement and I formed the opinion that she only wants a listening ear to whatever new situation in her relationship may arise, because she rarely allow me to interject in her one-sided

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