When I first met my best friend I had just started seventh grade. She was thirteen years old, she had long, blond hair and was very tall compared to me. She was wearing a black shirt and a pair of jeans. She was very pretty and looked like she took care of herself. She made it through the first filter in Duck’s Relationship Filtering Model. When she was showing me around she didn’t really talk to me. I could tell she was nervous by her nonverbal communication. Nonverbal communication is when activities you do communicate a message (D & M, P. 89). She was talking quietly when she did talk and was fidgeting a round. After she showed me around we went to our first class. She took her seat and I decided to sit next to her.
Once class was over …show more content…
She told me that she didn’t have very many friends because she is more focused on her grades in school. I told her that I also felt like grades were important and I probably wouldn’t have found any friends if not for her. She made her way through my third filter in the model.
I learned most things about her through self-disclosure. Self-disclosure is when someone tells you something that others would not know without being told (D & M, P.59). She told me that she is scared of cats and that she likes math. I told her that I am terrified of snakes and that I don’t like math very much. We shared a lot of personal things with each other and I found that we were similar.
One of the ways we were similar was the fact that we both love to go shopping. Another reason we are similar is that we both enjoy going to the movies and riding bikes. We have some differences as well such as the fact that she doesn’t like animals and she thinks that bugs are cool while I find bugs to be disgusting and animals to be awesome. I think that our differences make us better friends because they make us think more about who we are as a person and help us grow. She made it through my fourth filter and has become my best …show more content…
Relational continuity constructional units are ways to show that our relationship still exist when we are not together (D & M, P. 143). We text each other almost every day and if we don’t text then we will send each other pictures on Snapchat. Whenever we hang out we will tell each other about how our week has been and anything that has been bothering us.
Sometimes our internal dialectics don’t match up but normally we can figure some way to work it out. Internal dialectics are problems that occur in a relationship such as openness-closedness when one person wants to talk with the other and the other person doesn’t really feel like talking (D & M, P.146). I usually like to be alone and just read or think while she likes to hang out all the time. This can make problems for us but we have found that if we hang out on the weekends we have more to talk about and it is a good
Once class was over …show more content…
She told me that she didn’t have very many friends because she is more focused on her grades in school. I told her that I also felt like grades were important and I probably wouldn’t have found any friends if not for her. She made her way through my third filter in the model.
I learned most things about her through self-disclosure. Self-disclosure is when someone tells you something that others would not know without being told (D & M, P.59). She told me that she is scared of cats and that she likes math. I told her that I am terrified of snakes and that I don’t like math very much. We shared a lot of personal things with each other and I found that we were similar.
One of the ways we were similar was the fact that we both love to go shopping. Another reason we are similar is that we both enjoy going to the movies and riding bikes. We have some differences as well such as the fact that she doesn’t like animals and she thinks that bugs are cool while I find bugs to be disgusting and animals to be awesome. I think that our differences make us better friends because they make us think more about who we are as a person and help us grow. She made it through my fourth filter and has become my best …show more content…
Relational continuity constructional units are ways to show that our relationship still exist when we are not together (D & M, P. 143). We text each other almost every day and if we don’t text then we will send each other pictures on Snapchat. Whenever we hang out we will tell each other about how our week has been and anything that has been bothering us.
Sometimes our internal dialectics don’t match up but normally we can figure some way to work it out. Internal dialectics are problems that occur in a relationship such as openness-closedness when one person wants to talk with the other and the other person doesn’t really feel like talking (D & M, P.146). I usually like to be alone and just read or think while she likes to hang out all the time. This can make problems for us but we have found that if we hang out on the weekends we have more to talk about and it is a good