Importance Of My Best Friends Child

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Throughout the 30 minutes I observed my best friends child that is like my niece. She is exactly 2 years old. She is secure and also insecure-resistant/ambivalent as well. It all depends on her mood or how she is feeling that day. Times when she is happy she is the secure attachment. It all depends on her mood, where she is, and whose she 's with. Most of the time she is the secure attachment. When she is in a bad mood or wants only 'mom ' she is in the insecure-resistant/ambivalent attachment. I observed her playing in the front room and outside. Inside she plays with her toys and will come up to me or her mom and give us toys, talk to us, or play by herself. When her mom leaves to the bathroom or goes outside to smoke she says “Where go?” …show more content…
Outside she constantly wants to sit on her mom’s lap and be up in her face to see what’s on the phone. Her mom doesn’t allow that because she is smoking and also wants her space. When she tries to sit on her lap or be up in her face wanting her phone and her mom says “NO!” she sometimes hits, cries or throws a toy if there is one in her sight. She then later gets over it but repeats it every time her mom goes outside. When I’m there I try to keep her entertained so she’s not so clingy to her mom. I would classify the attachment using the Strange Technique by secure attachment. When a stranger is around like in the Strange Technique, she at first wants nothing to do with the stranger (s). She stays by her mom and follows her when she is around people she doesn’t know. With stranger kids she warms up easy and starts playing but with stranger adults it takes her time. Once you start interacting with her she gets comfortable. She 's a single mom so she 's only around her all the time. So she cries when she leaves but then realizes she 's coming back or just gets over it and continues to …show more content…
They become more independent. All children in this age group develop fears of being abandoned. In a parent’s absence, a child may even fear that the parent has disappeared. Ways that you can help a child with avoidant attachment is to show concern and respond if the child is hurting or distressed. Don’t discourage feelings or crying. Don’t ignore it. That makes children become independent and avoid which becomes the attachment. Ways you can help a child with the ambivalent attachment is to be consistent and sensitive to every situation. No matter bad or good. If you are nurturing at times and then other times intrusive and not sensitive the child becomes scared like and is insecure. Situations likes these the children are distrustful of their parents. Which leads to the ambivalent attachment. Lastly, the ways you can help children with disorganized attachment is to guide them to a safer environment and show them the way they are being treated is wrong. Tell them to call someone or if the child is young talk to the guardians of the child and figure out what is going on. Get help for the child and make sure they are

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