inconvenient when I try to diet and exercise.
Aside from my impairing self-esteem, I am a very compassionate person. I didn't need to search deep down for an autobiography to discover this. Instead, it's something I hold close to me to remind me to forget about my self-esteem or the people that bullied me because at the end of the day I have my compassion and a good heart. I've spent a large amount of my life feeling like I wasn't a good person, but in the past year, it's something I have come to terms with. As I mentioned earlier my family is extremely religious and I am not, so that is partially why I felt like I was a terrible person. Every time I would go to a church service all I could ruminate about was how out of me and my sister I was …show more content…
Some people probably see that as boring, but I have spent a good bit of time hiding who I am from my own family, and I would love nothing more than to be surrounded by a family who sees me for who I am. Most importantly I do not want to be judged by my future immediate family. I want to be able to be opened and honest with them, and not fear what they think. My own mother is a closet smoker and refuses to admit that she smokes cigarettes because she is scared of what her own family will consider of her. I don't want my future to be me hiding in a closet from my own children and husband. I want one of those marriages that never give up and never hides anything. Also, I want children who love me and appreciate me, and when it comes to my children I want the best for them. A positive family setting can help children with academic achievement and behavioral aspects (Preston, Gottfried, Oliver, Gottfried, Delany & Ibrahim, 2016). So the future I will never stop building that environment for my children. Of course, I know it will not be all butterfly's and rainbows, but at the end of the day, I just want a close family without the pressure to be someone you aren't. To be that family person I will strive to be better at trusting and opening up. That probably doesn't seem like a big goal to most people, but it is huge to me. If I can't trust, my children will not have a good example, and in …show more content…
As of right now in my life, I would say I am happy probably fifty percent of the time. That isn't terrible, but that isn't great either. I have a good relationship, I am healthy, and I am doing overall well in life so there should not be any reason I can't bring that percentage up. To be happy I must have the motivation to become happy (Lyubomirsky, Dickerhoof, Boehm& Sheldon, 2011). Someone just doesn’t simply wake up and be a happier person. They need to strive to be happier, and according to Lyubomirsky, Dickerhoof, Boehm & Sheldon (2011), someone has to have the will, which can be defined as motivation or diligence, and a proper way, which can come from performing correct activities at correct times. Timing is always important because it also helps to reduce stressors which may interfere with someone's happiness. Franken (1998) on the other hand provides four different steps to improve happiness. Step one is to increase closeness with your extended kin. Buss argued that getting in touch with your ancestors can make you feel secure, increase happiness, and decrease particular forms of abuse. Step two of increasing happiness is to develop deep friendships. Buss makes the case that trying to develop close friendships help you to become the person you would choose as a friend because we develop deep friendships with people who are like ourselves. This step, in particular, seems like it may
Aside from my impairing self-esteem, I am a very compassionate person. I didn't need to search deep down for an autobiography to discover this. Instead, it's something I hold close to me to remind me to forget about my self-esteem or the people that bullied me because at the end of the day I have my compassion and a good heart. I've spent a large amount of my life feeling like I wasn't a good person, but in the past year, it's something I have come to terms with. As I mentioned earlier my family is extremely religious and I am not, so that is partially why I felt like I was a terrible person. Every time I would go to a church service all I could ruminate about was how out of me and my sister I was …show more content…
Some people probably see that as boring, but I have spent a good bit of time hiding who I am from my own family, and I would love nothing more than to be surrounded by a family who sees me for who I am. Most importantly I do not want to be judged by my future immediate family. I want to be able to be opened and honest with them, and not fear what they think. My own mother is a closet smoker and refuses to admit that she smokes cigarettes because she is scared of what her own family will consider of her. I don't want my future to be me hiding in a closet from my own children and husband. I want one of those marriages that never give up and never hides anything. Also, I want children who love me and appreciate me, and when it comes to my children I want the best for them. A positive family setting can help children with academic achievement and behavioral aspects (Preston, Gottfried, Oliver, Gottfried, Delany & Ibrahim, 2016). So the future I will never stop building that environment for my children. Of course, I know it will not be all butterfly's and rainbows, but at the end of the day, I just want a close family without the pressure to be someone you aren't. To be that family person I will strive to be better at trusting and opening up. That probably doesn't seem like a big goal to most people, but it is huge to me. If I can't trust, my children will not have a good example, and in …show more content…
As of right now in my life, I would say I am happy probably fifty percent of the time. That isn't terrible, but that isn't great either. I have a good relationship, I am healthy, and I am doing overall well in life so there should not be any reason I can't bring that percentage up. To be happy I must have the motivation to become happy (Lyubomirsky, Dickerhoof, Boehm& Sheldon, 2011). Someone just doesn’t simply wake up and be a happier person. They need to strive to be happier, and according to Lyubomirsky, Dickerhoof, Boehm & Sheldon (2011), someone has to have the will, which can be defined as motivation or diligence, and a proper way, which can come from performing correct activities at correct times. Timing is always important because it also helps to reduce stressors which may interfere with someone's happiness. Franken (1998) on the other hand provides four different steps to improve happiness. Step one is to increase closeness with your extended kin. Buss argued that getting in touch with your ancestors can make you feel secure, increase happiness, and decrease particular forms of abuse. Step two of increasing happiness is to develop deep friendships. Buss makes the case that trying to develop close friendships help you to become the person you would choose as a friend because we develop deep friendships with people who are like ourselves. This step, in particular, seems like it may