Identity: What Makes Us Who We Are

All through life people are aspire to become someone with a specific identity, to be classified as a “somebody” rather than nobody. There, I spent countless of hours searching deep down inside me like how a bucket descents in a well looking for a common truth. Identity, what does identity mean to you? Well, to me, it is the obstacles we overcome, it’s by the choice we make, what we do, and most importantly how we act that makes us who we are. Therefore, my Family, my Community, and my friends influenced me to be who I am today. I am the son of immigrant parents who came to America with nothing in their wallets, but a dream. My parents did not know English, except French, which was not enough for them to achieve their goals. Therefore, they …show more content…
Especially, when you were constantly being told by your mother, “ pick your friends carefully” because they can either make you into a star or break you into pieces. Indeed, words do have wings and if we do not allow them to sink in, they will fly over our heads. I never understood what my mother meant until years later when my best friend got shot and killed that I started questioning my identity. Who am I? What do I want to be? The answers to my questions didn’t come until my freshman year of high school. “Sometimes you just have to make peace with your past in order to keep your future from becoming a constant battle, (Susan Gale).” Therefore, I changed my footstep and allowed positive people into my life who had ambitions to be role models. These Friends that I hold today taught me how to show that I care for the well-being of other people’s lives. When someone is simply having a horrible day, I comfort them in a manner that my friends always reacted to me, they were my support system. I realized that who I am in this world is not set in stone; However, What is set in stone, is the fact that it was my friend’s who shaped me into who I am today. The fact of the matter is. everyone has something that defines who they are, by making choices that are significant and requires a courageous commitment in the face of challenges. My identity as a person is a result of everything that has happened in my life. The choices I made, the way I want to be preserved, the admiration of my parents are all patterns of behavior that I act upon today. Identity is an ongoing process that changes and become stronger with every day. Without these traits, I would not be able to set goals and a promising future for