Identity Crushes In Shakespeare's Romeo And Juliet

The play Romeo and Juliet seems to based entirely on the idea of using, romantic and identity crushes to show that parents should take crushes seriously. Pickhardt is an author that talks about the different types of crushes and the effects they have on the adolescents path in their life, the author and Shakespeare both agree that parents should take their child’s crush seriously. The first type of crush that both Pickhardt and Shakespeare introduce is the identity crush. This type is identified by Pickhardt as, “finding someone they much admire, want to become like, and treat as a leader or model they are eager to imitate and follow.”(Pickhardt). In other words: a role model. An example of when parents should have payed attention was when mom of Juliet was unable to talk to Juliet without the nurse, “This is the matter.—Nurse, give leave awhile. We must talk in secret.—Nurse, come back again. I have remembered me, thou ’s hear our counsel.”(Shakespeare 1, 3, 8-11). This crush is an example of an identity crush because Juliet seems to look up to the nurse and she does not seem to be close with her mother. As a result Juliet does not have a good role model or have a bond of trust with her mother so she could not go to her for advice. …show more content…
On, lusty gentlemen.”(Shakespeare 1, 4, 113-120). because Romeo is basically telling them to tell him what to do. He is following his friends advice however if his parents took crushes seriously then he could have asked them for advice about trying to get over a crush. Again, like Juliet, he does not have a bond of trust with his parents so he cannot ask them on how to get over his crush on Rosaline, besides most people have at least a SMALL identity crush on our friends so he probably wants to be like