Identity Crisis In My Life

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The future is scary; you’re expected to figure out what you want to do with the rest of your life, move out of your parents house, go to school or get a job, find a life partner, and create a family of your own. Trying to figure out what you want to be as an adult in just a matter of four years is tough. Going to school, having a job, homework, a social life? Managing to have all of those is nearly impossible to me at this point but somehow I manage. I’m currently a junior in high school, the toughest grade level of them all. Often times I find myself asking, “What do you want to be when you grow up? Where are you going to go to school?” This question has been ringing in my mind since freshman year and I am still not certain what my future …show more content…
It was around middle school when she began to fall to peer pressure. She had lost her virginity at the short age of 13, began smoking cigarettes and weed, and also began drinking with some of her other troubled “friends.” About five years later that the age of 18, she found out that she was pregnant, because of this she would have to change her whole life and I believe that she went through an identity crisis at that time. “An identity crisis is a turning point in a person’s development when the person examines his or her values and makes or changes decisions about life roles (Rathus, 2010, p. 316).” Identity crisis’s often arise during the adolescent years, A psychologist by the name of James Marcia studied the ways that teens deal with commitment and cope with their stresses. From this he concluded that there were four categories of identity statuses, which were reaction patterns or processes. Throughout the years, adolescents move through the categories, not typically staying in one. The one that I believed my sister moved to after the news was the identity achievement stage. In the identity achievement stage adolescents have coped with the crisis and have explored their options (Rathus, 2010, p. 317). After finding out she was pregnant she stopped smoking, stopped drinking, and researched what would be best for her baby. Eventually she decided that she would …show more content…
Listening to my mother talk about things that she did at work and hearing her stories of her patients telling her how grateful they were for her help, really had an impact on me. Since being in high school I’ve decided that I want to go into the medical field and peruse a career as a Pediatric Nurse Practitioner. However, I have a conflict. My family believes that I should go into the military; I on the other hand don’t believe that it is truly for me. Yes, there are so many benefits to me going into the military. For example, they would pay for all or most of schooling, I would get paid while going to school, I can get away from DeWitt and travel the world and see all of these amazing things, but there are some drawbacks too. I would have to commit a long period of my life to the military, I wouldn’t be able to see my family, and there is always the risk of me going over seas. Part of me says, “Yes do it, it’s a great opportunity,” but the other part tells me that I should just stay here after graduation and go to college. Right now, everyone is trying to make me really consider it but my heart just doesn’t seem in it but I’m so conflicted that I’m beginning get a little stressed about what to do. One of the sources of stress is conflict. There are four main types of conflict: approach-approach, avoidance-avoidance, approach-avoidance, and multiple approach-avoidance. Right now my situation

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