Psychology: The Four Types Of Attachment

Throughout my life, I have often been told by people around me that I was a quiet child. In a new situation, I would tend to keep to myself and struggled to adapt to a crowd. Unless I have mentally prepared myself prior to a situation, then I would make excuses as to why I should keep away from people. Without making mental preparations, I would feel a sense of anxiety and wanting to escape the situation. However, these situations are not unexpected, I often know beforehand, but still not prepare myself. I often think that I will do better next time and there is no need to think too much about it. Although I usually take the initiative to talk to people, I tend to not get very close with them. I would talk to them whenever I see them, but I …show more content…
Within the social perspective my issue with attachment could be called an anxious ambivalence. There are four types of attachment according to Bowlby’s attachment theory: secure attachment, avoidant attachment, ambivalent attachment, and disorganized attachment (Travis 264). Earlier, I mentioned how I would avoid expressing myself to people and this would cause a separation, but at the same time wanting to be closer to them. However, once I opened up to them I expected too much attention and in the end isolated myself away from them again. This caused a lot of mixed feelings on whether to get to know people or not. That was similar to how an anxious ambivalent would distant themselves and at the same time seek to be closer. As a result, the anxious ambivalence tends to be in a cognitive dissonance causing an emotional conflict (Travis 264).Through attachment theory, it is thought that the way to determine the type of attachment a person will have was through proximity of the caretaker from childhood (Travis 260). Although my relationships with my parents are good, little words were needed to be spoken. As a child, I knew that my parents weren’t well off. As a result, they had to go to work a lot and I was left under the care of and aunt or uncle. Thus even though I received attention from my parents, but at the same time it was a mix of caretakers. This perhaps resulted in the …show more content…
Within the social perspective, anxious ambivalent, persuasion, and cognitive dissonances can be applied to the trait of being quiet. Furthermore, within the behavioral perspective, classical and operant conditioning can be applied. Although I do not agree as much on the social perspective, I do find the behavior perspective to be more acceptable. I find that the cause and effect demonstrated within the behavior perspective to be more agreeable since it explains the trait of being quiet. On the other hand, within the social perspective, it is more about my attitude towards how I perceive things. It illustrates how my interactions with people would affect my thoughts and actions. In summary, the two perspective of social and behavioral applied to my trait of being quiet and develops an explanation for