I M Happy With An Arranged Marriage By Gitangeli Sapra

Anyone who has ever spent time on Match.com or Tinder might at times be tempted to say that they wish Western society would embrace the concept of arranged marriage as described by Gitangeli Sapra in her essay, “I'm Happy with an Arranged Marriage.” Who would not want to avoid years of bad dates and broken hearts and just have the matter of whom they married settled in consultation with their families? It would be just like Match.com if people’s mothers picked their dates. Arranged marriages are not forced marriages. As Miss Sapra writes, “Arranged marriages are simply introductions—the element of choice remains” (Sapra 289). The answer to the question of who would want to go through the messy process of finding their own dates is most Americans prefer meeting their future spouses wherever they may be found, and would prefer to have their families stay out of things. The Western tradition of marrying for love is certainly not without problems, but it still a system …show more content…
Without dismissing the positive aspects of arranged marriages, the modern Western method of selecting mates has many advantages. For one, under the Western system there is a much larger pool of potential spouses from which to choose. Further, since a system of arranged marriage usually involves family feedback, if an individual’s family holds racist or other intolerant views these would be reflected in approved marriage candidates. Marrying based on freedom of choice helps ensure that one generation’s prejudices are not doomed to afflict their offspring. In a larger sense, a society that encourages people to marry for love is a society that will evolve over time, as races, classes and cultures have the chance to blend. The Western tradition of marrying for love is at the root of the American melting pot, proving it is a system that is good not only for individuals but