I was a lucky woman that married a man who loved me and supported me all the time in my whole life. He was my cousin, we met each other when we were thirteen years old at which year we also engaged. Our marriage lives were great, he was gentle and caring. He did not give up on me, even I was almost die at the end of my life. He was such a good husband compared to other men at that period of time. We had one daughter and one son lived together. Unfortunately, because of some money issues, my husband and I escaped away home, since then, I had never seen my children again. There were both happiness and sadness in our life. I have no regrets over my life time because I met my husband Shen Fu. He gave me opportunities and courage to do things that
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We both had great time together which according to our happy lives and love between us. Life was tough, however, I was glad I could spend my life with my love.
Family was extremely important in Chinese culture. When I married my husband Shen Fu, we lived together with Shen Fu’s family members. It was a big family. At the beginning, I was shy and quite, but I respected everyone at home. Because I was older than Shen Fu for ten months, I called Shen Fu younger brother and he called me elder sister even we were couples. In Chinese traditional perspective, women’ works were taking good care of husband and children. I got up really early in every morning, because I did not want my husband’s parents thought I was lazy. As a daughter in law, I did not my parents in law felt bad of me. So I was trying to do my best to make them happy. I remembered my husband was invited by his friends to a festival to help them do something. I really wanted to go, but I could not. “I am not going! It would be awful if someone found out. If your parents knew, they would never allow us to go.” (Fu, P44) I really paid attentions to parents order. Once, father knew I could read and write, so he asked me to write letters for …show more content…
However, my husband treated me very well. “Words could not describe our love.” (Fu, P29) We loved each other from our deeply heart. His behaviors were not common for men at all in the whole society. We had really good relationships, so we did not understand the relationships between other couples. My husband felt: “The strangest thing to me then was how old couples seemed to treat one another like enemies.” (Fu, P33) In our little world, we played games, we drunk a little wine, and wrote poems. We had never been so happy like this before for both of us. At that time, women and men’ positions were unequal, man had much more power and freedom than woman. Surprisingly, my husband had open minded about a lot of things, and he understand me well. He respected me and supported me like I was a man. He shared his thoughts with me, taught me literary games, and asked advices from me. I felt satisfied with my life that I met such a good husband. He supported me even when I did crazy thing like I dressed like a man and traveled with him secretly. It was impossible for other men at that time. But my husband was so nice and caring. He hoped I became a man so that we could travel together without gender limitations. My personality was different with other women. Generally, women could not read and write, but I could. I was proud of it because I have common interests and languages with my husband. Women need to listen to their
We both had great time together which according to our happy lives and love between us. Life was tough, however, I was glad I could spend my life with my love.
Family was extremely important in Chinese culture. When I married my husband Shen Fu, we lived together with Shen Fu’s family members. It was a big family. At the beginning, I was shy and quite, but I respected everyone at home. Because I was older than Shen Fu for ten months, I called Shen Fu younger brother and he called me elder sister even we were couples. In Chinese traditional perspective, women’ works were taking good care of husband and children. I got up really early in every morning, because I did not want my husband’s parents thought I was lazy. As a daughter in law, I did not my parents in law felt bad of me. So I was trying to do my best to make them happy. I remembered my husband was invited by his friends to a festival to help them do something. I really wanted to go, but I could not. “I am not going! It would be awful if someone found out. If your parents knew, they would never allow us to go.” (Fu, P44) I really paid attentions to parents order. Once, father knew I could read and write, so he asked me to write letters for …show more content…
However, my husband treated me very well. “Words could not describe our love.” (Fu, P29) We loved each other from our deeply heart. His behaviors were not common for men at all in the whole society. We had really good relationships, so we did not understand the relationships between other couples. My husband felt: “The strangest thing to me then was how old couples seemed to treat one another like enemies.” (Fu, P33) In our little world, we played games, we drunk a little wine, and wrote poems. We had never been so happy like this before for both of us. At that time, women and men’ positions were unequal, man had much more power and freedom than woman. Surprisingly, my husband had open minded about a lot of things, and he understand me well. He respected me and supported me like I was a man. He shared his thoughts with me, taught me literary games, and asked advices from me. I felt satisfied with my life that I met such a good husband. He supported me even when I did crazy thing like I dressed like a man and traveled with him secretly. It was impossible for other men at that time. But my husband was so nice and caring. He hoped I became a man so that we could travel together without gender limitations. My personality was different with other women. Generally, women could not read and write, but I could. I was proud of it because I have common interests and languages with my husband. Women need to listen to their