Good afternoon, Marissa;
I’d like to apologize for getting off on such bad footing. I take full responsibility for my part in the sour nature of our connections, and accept the fault greatly lays in my lap. Though I’d understand if you chose not to read the contents of this note, I hope you take the time to read it for the benefit of Luke and you in the future. I hope to open communication and better our chances of working together in Luke’s best interest, as well as open the chances of any future significant other of yours or Ben’s.
Your son is an exceptional little man. I’ve had the privilege of watching him grow over the past 21 months from a distance. You and Ben have done an outstanding job guiding him through his first two years. He’s happy, laughs and loves to the fullest of his abilities. He is a delight unto those who get to know him and his joy brings pleasure to others.
Fear of stepparents overshadowing your parenting was raised as a concern to me, and I thought I’d let you know a little about my thoughts regarding your concerns. In fairytales and movies, stepparents, especially the moms, are the evil—or wicked--ones, and in some cases in life, stepparents are terrible. Fortunately, this is the exception more than the rule.
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I would never ask Luke to call me mom—mom is your title and yours alone. Being a co-parent isn’t something I ever wanted, and I am certain it isn’t something you ever wanted either, but it is something that we both face in the future. Even if Ben and I do not work out, eventually someone will come along and steal his heart and he will re-marry—with remarriage comes a stepparent, and possibly siblings for Luke. It’s hard to accept that another person will be in the life of your child and that you have to relinquish control, but it’s part of life. A learning moment, maybe the universe’s way of stretching you a little farther to show you how strong of a woman, and mother, you
I’d like to apologize for getting off on such bad footing. I take full responsibility for my part in the sour nature of our connections, and accept the fault greatly lays in my lap. Though I’d understand if you chose not to read the contents of this note, I hope you take the time to read it for the benefit of Luke and you in the future. I hope to open communication and better our chances of working together in Luke’s best interest, as well as open the chances of any future significant other of yours or Ben’s.
Your son is an exceptional little man. I’ve had the privilege of watching him grow over the past 21 months from a distance. You and Ben have done an outstanding job guiding him through his first two years. He’s happy, laughs and loves to the fullest of his abilities. He is a delight unto those who get to know him and his joy brings pleasure to others.
Fear of stepparents overshadowing your parenting was raised as a concern to me, and I thought I’d let you know a little about my thoughts regarding your concerns. In fairytales and movies, stepparents, especially the moms, are the evil—or wicked--ones, and in some cases in life, stepparents are terrible. Fortunately, this is the exception more than the rule.
My …show more content…
I would never ask Luke to call me mom—mom is your title and yours alone. Being a co-parent isn’t something I ever wanted, and I am certain it isn’t something you ever wanted either, but it is something that we both face in the future. Even if Ben and I do not work out, eventually someone will come along and steal his heart and he will re-marry—with remarriage comes a stepparent, and possibly siblings for Luke. It’s hard to accept that another person will be in the life of your child and that you have to relinquish control, but it’s part of life. A learning moment, maybe the universe’s way of stretching you a little farther to show you how strong of a woman, and mother, you