Analysis Of Dating By Junot Diaz

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I took this story as a mans point of view in how to date. The author made this story very relatable and to not only men but woman could understand it. It reminded me of some men that I know and how they think. I have six nephews so it made me think of them and how I hope they do not behave with their future girlfriends. He states that young men are under constant pressure of trying to fit in with society and make them seem more desirable over others. At home, they are themselves they don’t hide anything, but when it comes to their friends or a girl he may like he will hide embarrassing photos, his childhood toys or even his collections just to impress. In the story, he also mentions how girls will respond to certain sexual situations or even when certain phrases or comments are said. He even gives advice in how to handle each situation. This story could be taken as some big brothers guide in dating.
This story is very straight to the point and really focuses on stereotypes. It highlights different girls and it is based on their ethnicity and
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Diaz also analyses what the reader should expect in terms of the girl’s behavior depending on her race or social class. For example, he states, “a local girl may have hips and a thick ass but she won’t be quick about letting you touch.” By doing this he does not only discuss how accurate stereotypes might be, but also how a person’s race and upbringing can be used to determine their behavior. This also shines light on how such influences have taken away from the importance of individuality. There is no room for individualism. This whole story is advice given to the reader by Diaz and what is sad that this is all from his past experiences with certain groups rather than from a personal experience with a single individual. It doesn’t really make his story creditable, there aren’t any real facts just his own

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