How Do You Prepare For Your Own Death

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How do you prepare for your own death? That’s something I’ve thought about; I frequently think about my death. I consider what will happen after I die, what I want to happen, and how it will impact my family. I have spoken to various family members nonchalantly about my wishes to be cremated and an organ donor but before this assignment I had never sat down with my family and talked about what I want in a serious manner. There is no reason as to why I haven’t discussed it with family, perhaps death seemed too far away, but I do believe it’s important for everyone to discuss their advance care directives with someone- regardless of age.
At 21 when you say, “I don’t want resuscitation” people often think you’re joking, but I wasn’t and I wanted
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My boyfriend and brother said they would still give me CPR if the chances of healthy life were high. I understood that my boyfriend had said this because at a young age he had lost many friends and my brother because he didn’t like the thought of my death. My mother was surprised that as my only genetic parent I did not choose her to be my spokesperson, which I had anticipated as she was a single mother. I really played into my definition of our family dynamic by naming my stepdad as my spokesperson; my parental unit consists of my stepdad, mother, and mum’s parents (my grandparents) all of whom raised me. But the reason I chose my stepdad was because my mother always told me, “I would never be able to live if I lost you or your brother” and the qualities to look for in a spokesperson is someone that can “communicate clearly with my health team, make difficult decisions during stressful times” (INSERT REFERENCE). I wanted to alleviate any guilt associated with decision-making for my mum, which I explained to her, as this is something I’ve seen in the hospital as a student and I’ve read about in literature about chronically ill children. I’ve also watched my mum’s best friend struggle to cope with the loss of her young son; I thought by eliminating the burden of making …show more content…
During the conversation I showed my grandmother the print-out from Speak Up and she said that she and my grandfather don’t have a will; she said that they had written out some wishes (about cremation and organ donation) on a piece of paper in their fire-proof safe. My mother also confided that she had written her wishes and had it signed by a family friend who is a Commissioner of Oaths. I also found out that my stepdad refuses to write a will because, as a firefighter, the topic of death is too close to reality. This conversation helped me develop empathy towards my family members and their feelings related to

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