How Different Communication Styles Identify Gender Identity

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Different communication styles identify gender identity. In the article, “Speaking in Tongues: Does Language Unify or Divide Us,” Muller says, “Language can unify or divide a community or nation, but basically it remains a mark of your identity” (77). In the article, “Sex, Lies and Conversation,’ Tannes illustrates the differences between and women in communication styles. Different traits between male and female cause them to think, behave, and perceive differently. Female regard communication as the fundamental factor for a good relationship. Whereas, male desire less talking. Women expect intimacy in a conversation or friendship. Men do not have the same expectation. Women are likely face each other during a conversation, but men look everywhere.

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