How Communication Affects The Long Term Maintenance Attraction

791 Words Jan 22nd, 2016 4 Pages
Communication is important in relationships as it allows us to share interests, aspirations and concerns, to support each other, to organize our lives and make decisions, and to work together. In a romantic relationship or any type of relationship, self-concept and difference in values can cause a few complications. These two issues are so small but yet so damaging to a relationship. Differences in values and self-concept is detrimental to a relationship because it affects the long-term maintenance attraction.
My relationship with my partner was one of proximity. I had just been in America for a month or two and my partner at the time was living in the same apartment complex. Proximity was one of the short-term initial attractions because this alone increased communication opportunities and this was very conforming. Gradually, my relationship became one of choice. Like the authors of Communication Principles for a lifetime said, “Self-disclosure fulfills a human need to be known intimately and accepted.” For those many communication opportunities we had, I chose to self-disclose to him. We began sharing personal information, feelings, values and beliefs.
My self-concept and my partner’s personality, his values, his attitude and interests in life were similar and they are what initially attracted me to him. Firstly, his self-concept was very positive. His confidence level was high and this was shown through the language he used and the non-verbal ways of communicating he…

Related Documents