Be what though?
As I continue to get older, I have noticed my parents letting me go more and more. They want me to be independent and self sufficient. However, some of my friends are growing up under much different conditions Their parents operate under strict rules and circumstances when we hang out or even create plans. I feel like it's unnecessary but my friends don’t know the difference due to having a filter placed over them their whole life. Parents today need to let their children go as they begin to grow up and enter adolescence. Children can benefit from being independent and having freedom from their parents. At the same time, if parents maintain to ‘helicopter’ over their …show more content…
Helicopter parents’ worst nightmare is having their child experience failure of go through any type of negative experience. Despite these fears, experts suggest that children need to be allowed to struggle in order to thrive. Once again, Dr. Gilboa states, “Remembering to look for opportunities to take one step back from solving our child's problems will help us build the reliant, self-confident kids we need” (Bayless n.pag.). Children will benefit more when parents allow them to figure issues out on their own. Not only can parents do this but also simply by “listening to your child, rather than imposing your goals and wishes on him or her,” says Joel L. Young, M.D., and psychology professor at Wayne State University School of Medicine (Young n.pag.). This allows children to think critically with an independent mindset. At the same time, most Parents are blinded with the idea that childhood has be perfectly smooth with no bumps or bruises. When in reality, making mistakes and having low points are learning points that allow children to thrive later on. Patt Morrison speaks again, providing specific advice that, “the best way for a kid to learn is to have that uncomfortable feeling, [to experience] consequences that are tiny in the grand scheme of things” (Morrison n.pag.). If all of these steps are considered, maintaining or becoming a helicopter parent will end fast.
I still think about how my friends will do when it is time to graduate high school. Will their parents follow them to college? Can they still function even if they aren’t monitored 24/7 by an adult figure? I know for sure that I will never question what I have learned from my parents growing up. I can’t wait to have full independence and experience life on my own. So why not give your child some room and freedom? It might just allow them to grow up as the best person they can