Habit 5 Analysis

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In order to keep family above all and on track, Habit 4, Think “Win-Win”, Habit 5, Seek First to Understand, then to be understood, and 6, Synergize, all are highly interwoven. Covey explains these three habits as an equivalent to a root, a route, and the fruit. Habit 4 is the root, the foundation that helps families start to seek mutual gains, rather than mere individual successes. It is the root from which Habit 5 and Habit 6 blossoms from. Habit 5 is the route, the ability to tap into self-awareness, choosing to step out of an individual perspective and delve into the head and heart of another family member to see and take their perspective instead. It is taking the time to invest in the thoughts, emotions, and opinions of other family members, …show more content…
Everything, if left alone, will disintegrate back to its original elemental form, says Covey. Family is no exception. Sharpening the saw means to attend, dedicate time, and following through on the commitment to daily make the family better. Sharpening the saw can also be applied personally and as a family in physical, spiritual, mental and social/emotional aspects. Growing complacent and content can only damage the family and individual. Striving to make improvements and to progress toward the destination everyday is sharpening the saw. Family dinners, taking vacations, celebrating birthday and family time during holidays are ways to sharpen the saw through establishing and maintaining traditions. The fun and light moments mentioned above are useful to reunite the family and to push the family on toward their same goal. They are times of refreshing and deepening connections that spur the family onward, better and sharper than before. Learning, working, serving and worshipping together sharpen the family saw as well. They are opportunities of growth, vulnerability and joy that rejuvenate the family and steers the members away from complacency. Sharpening the saw is the key to maintain the 7 Habits of highly effective families. Each habit must be applied starting from within, an individual choice that works its way out and affects the family, aiding in the survival, stability, success, and significance …show more content…
Habit 1 emphasizes being proactive with change. Change starts within myself. I can do my part to control the outcome. Covey gave the example of thinking first rather than reacting. Proverbs 15:1 says, “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” I have seen this verse come to life and prove to be true many times. When my parents have told me “no” or given me instructions that I didn’t like, each time I thought before I responded, and chose to react respectfully with a gentle answer, there was no wrath and no argument. However, the times that I did not think and just reacted back to them disrespectfully, they became angry. I then would get a consequence and an argument would more than likely be the result. My dad is the most admirable and devoted man of God I know, but he has a quick temper. I have responded irrationally to him with disrespect and he has yelled at me as a result. We have gotten in severe fights because of my tongue. Yet, I am learning to respond Christ-like and with respect, and the fights have grown less and less throughout the past few years. Choosing to make the change from responding disrespectfully to thinking before I respond and choosing a gentle answer has changed the result to less arguments and fights. The advice and

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